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    • #168804
      Raspberry123
      Participant

      I left (detail removed by Moderator). I’ve been so unhappy for a while and I actually left and didn’t go back. But now it’s taking everything in me not to go back to him. I just wish things were good and we worked out. Just really upset and struggling, this is my (detail removed by Moderator) so I’m a mess and all over the place. Any help would be appreciated

    • #168820
      charmed
      Participant

      You know deep down you have done the right thing,it’s hard but you will be able to be happy again in time. I’m so very proud of you many of us wish we were as strong as you for leaving. Love and hugs to you x

    • #168821
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      If you was very unhappy then I think you have done the right thing. You deserve happiness not unhappiness. You deserve to be treated with respect not disrespected. Your stronger than you think. Be proud of yourself. They never change. Sending gentle hugs. Sending kind blessings too .

    • #168869
      Bulbssprouting
      Participant

      I think we have to realise that in a normal relationship you would not have left, and you wouldn’t be here. I know it is hard, I have the same feelings, and I know it is harder to be strong, but I am pretty confident my future self will thank me. Hugs

      • #168889
        Lionking
        Participant

        This is so true!! If you were in a relationship that you deserve, you wouldn’t have to contact womens aid.

        I was offered a “domestic violence support worker” last week. I keep reminding myself that you don’t get one of those unless you need one.

    • #168888
      Lionking
      Participant

      I read the book ‘why does he do that?’ By Lundy Bancroft. It was eye opening in general but one of my favourite parts told me that respect and abuse cannot co-rxist. You dont abuse the one you respect and you don’t respect the one you abuse.

      You deserve better.

    • #169479
      Broadbodiedchaser
      Participant

      A friend asked me, “How did he make you feel about yourself?” I replied, “Rubbish”. I say this to myself each time I get that craving to want to go back, each time I feel guilty for breaking our family unit.

      I picture myself sat ‘numb’, arms folded defensively in our armchair, while he ‘lectured’ me on what I ‘did’ which resulted in him doing something to upset me. I picture this scene when I miss him. It helps me to get perspective on things and reminds me why I left and it makes me feel stronger.

    • #170410
      Bluebirds
      Participant

      Well done for leaving!! You should be proud of yourself x

      I’m also in this boat fighting those thoughts but he’s still trying to control me since I’ve left. I know it’s the right thing even though I feel absolutely awful sad and depressed. It definitely is a roller coaster.

      Broadbodiedchaser – thankyou for this. Good perspective to use. He made me feel rubbish ! Thinking of all the bad today and I can’t help but feel so mad and sick!

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