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24th May 2024 at 12:52 pm #168804
Raspberry123
ParticipantI left (detail removed by Moderator). I’ve been so unhappy for a while and I actually left and didn’t go back. But now it’s taking everything in me not to go back to him. I just wish things were good and we worked out. Just really upset and struggling, this is my (detail removed by Moderator) so I’m a mess and all over the place. Any help would be appreciated
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24th May 2024 at 10:44 pm #168820
charmed
ParticipantYou know deep down you have done the right thing,it’s hard but you will be able to be happy again in time. I’m so very proud of you many of us wish we were as strong as you for leaving. Love and hugs to you x
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24th May 2024 at 10:49 pm #168821
Stargazing1
ParticipantIf you was very unhappy then I think you have done the right thing. You deserve happiness not unhappiness. You deserve to be treated with respect not disrespected. Your stronger than you think. Be proud of yourself. They never change. Sending gentle hugs. Sending kind blessings too .
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27th May 2024 at 11:56 pm #168869
Bulbssprouting
ParticipantI think we have to realise that in a normal relationship you would not have left, and you wouldn’t be here. I know it is hard, I have the same feelings, and I know it is harder to be strong, but I am pretty confident my future self will thank me. Hugs
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29th May 2024 at 12:13 am #168888
Lionking
ParticipantI read the book ‘why does he do that?’ By Lundy Bancroft. It was eye opening in general but one of my favourite parts told me that respect and abuse cannot co-rxist. You dont abuse the one you respect and you don’t respect the one you abuse.
You deserve better.
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29th June 2024 at 11:55 am #169479
Broadbodiedchaser
ParticipantA friend asked me, “How did he make you feel about yourself?” I replied, “Rubbish”. I say this to myself each time I get that craving to want to go back, each time I feel guilty for breaking our family unit.
I picture myself sat ‘numb’, arms folded defensively in our armchair, while he ‘lectured’ me on what I ‘did’ which resulted in him doing something to upset me. I picture this scene when I miss him. It helps me to get perspective on things and reminds me why I left and it makes me feel stronger.
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7th August 2024 at 7:19 am #170410
Bluebirds
ParticipantWell done for leaving!! You should be proud of yourself x
I’m also in this boat fighting those thoughts but he’s still trying to control me since I’ve left. I know it’s the right thing even though I feel absolutely awful sad and depressed. It definitely is a roller coaster.
Broadbodiedchaser – thankyou for this. Good perspective to use. He made me feel rubbish ! Thinking of all the bad today and I can’t help but feel so mad and sick!
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