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Sorry to hear that Betterdays. I know how you feel, i feel sadness in my heart too. Today I have thought about my ex and feel that I still love him, i have thought about the good times that we had.
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Hi healthy archive yes I’m thinking the same. It makes it difficult as he only lives (detail removed by Moderator) mins away. His family (detail removed by Moderator) minutes away too. I went to pick my sister up today and I passed his van as he were outside his mums flat it’s only way I can go. It’s all triggers. I sometimes think it’s a dream. I wonder if I’ve done right thing and if I should of give him another chance x
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Dear Betterdays, I feel exactly the same way that you do – at the moment.
Feelings and emotions are funny, 2 or 3 days ago I felt happy, free and confident that I had got him out of my system and could now start my life again. This morning as soon as I woke as usual I thought about him. I cannot really understand it but last night i was reading this good article on trauma bonding, sometimes its hard to read and take in this sort of information, something to do with stress and shutting down. But I have managed to read the first part of the article, it says that trauma bonding occurs when there was an imbalance of power that is very much what I had. I will find the article and post it to you. Today I feel that I still really love my ex and feel sad for him. XXXXX
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Here is the link that I was reading last night. The first two sections on intermittent reinforcement and imbalance of power were definately there with my ex. Also I denied everything for about 2 years. https://victimsofpsychopaths.wordpress.com/traumatic-bonding/
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