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    • #138242
      Anonymous
      Inactive

      Hi there I just realised today that my ex partner may have installed a tracking device from his end using my email address, he is very computer savvy , I only realised as it said from my end on my phone that I was sharing a location with (detail removed by moderator) ? But I do not own (detail removed by moderator) and it was under his contact details of share location. I’m struggling to believe my own eyes that this is possible, has anyone else come into this kind of behaviour, I mean is it correct what I’m seeing ? I’ve obviously removed this now . Thanks

    • #138247
      Wants To Help
      Participant

      Hi The Duchess,

      This is very common with abusers to stalk you by tracking and watching your movements and absolutely horrible to realise that you are being covertly monitored. Anyone who is remotely IT savvy can download this software and it is often installed under the ‘guise’ of being able to track phones or laptops if they are stolen.

      It may be worth checking all of your devices for apps that you are unfamiliar with and possibly re-setting your phone to factory settings, but make sure you keep a note of all of your contact details etc and back up your photos before you do.

      Now that you have turned off the location device he will be aware that you are on to him and this may escalate his behaviour if he feels he can no longer monitor your movements. It may well drive him mad that he doesn’t know where you are and what you are up to. Sorry if this scares you, but he could put a tracker on your car now, it is very simple to put something magnetic under a wheel arch, so it may be worth checking under your car regularly for anything that is magnetically attached underneath.

      xx

    • #138250
      Anonymous
      Inactive

      Thankyou so much I’m so shocked tbh as you think are my eyes deceiving me , I will definitely keep a look out on my car xx

    • #138271
      Weemebreeze
      Participant

      Hi The Duchess

      This happened to me – he had access to my WhatsApp’s and emails and I had no idea. I felt completely and utterly violated, sick to the stomach. His car had a tracker via an app (detail removed by moderator) and he used to encourage me to take it rather than my own car – I realised after that it was to track me. You’re doing the right thing and i definitely recommend the re-set to factory settings plus all of the additional security steps such two step verification on WhatsApp. Also go to your iCloud if you’re apple, and check what devices registered. Change all your passwords.

      Hope you’re ok – it’s such a horrible thing to happen. 💕

    • #138273
      Anonymous
      Inactive

      Omg that definitely sounds terrifying to have to deal with , I just never thought or comprehended what lengths they go to , I just automatically assumed I’ve blocked all contact took a restraining order out , this would be the end of it , as my mind can’t digest all these things . I was so shocked at what I saw I even checked with a friend whose a phone technician to see if it’s plausible, thanks for your advice & sharing your experience xx

    • #138281
      Twisted Sister
      Participant

      This behaviour has violated me above all else I think, on finding things out I couldn’t believe my eyes either, or what I was hearing when told (detail removed by moderator) he was receiving copies of emails, contacts, calendar entries…he knew everything! Makes me sick to my stomach revolting creep. So violating, also its a favorite thing of the abuser to do, to buy the gadgets and devices and have them all set up so they have ultimate control and can violate any privacy whatsoever. (Detail removed by moderator) were very good and removed him, and reset it all. Continually trying to give the kids things registered in his account, or their account attached to him, with his name as receiving copies of all notifications and so on.

      It feels like trying to keep water out and keep on shutting doors that the water keeps seeping through.

      Its a struggle to find solid support to investigate this kind of abuse. I’ve been looking for years.

      I reported this a while back to the national stalking helpline, they didn’t really have anything useful to say to me.  (detail removed by moderator). I had copies of hundreds of messages he’d sent.
      It makes you lose faith in anyone ever doing anything, plus like someone recently said in a post about stalking, that if you talk about it you just sound paranoid. With reporting abuse, its about being believed, and with stalking its about ‘paranoia’.

      I know that there are garages that can check for trackers, but you have to have the specialist tracker equipment to detect the signal, like the police have to track stolen cars. It can take forever to try ot find one though as they are often well hidden within the engine bay. I think an auto engineer would do it, but they cost a lot and can only say they can look and if they don’t find anything after an hour may give up but that doesn’t mean the car doesn’t have one and its been well hidden.

      I wish there were services available fo rwomen to access these things easily based on the huge harm it causes and the increased risk it poses.

      warmest wishes

      ts

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