Trust your gut

[Confused123]

Hi Ladies

I just wanted to say to all of u always trust your gut, i have recently started to get back on dating game, i met this guy who was very busy like me so i thought it could have the possibility of going further, gosh was i wrong, where he started nice , slowly i could just see he was making inapproipriate comments which at first i thought ignore, till he made the third comment , i just thought there is no way i m going to be a guy that doesn’t know how to respect , sop ladies doesnt matter how long we have to wait but do not accept just anyone, it was only when a other guy who i know likes me is so happy just being friends anf just gives me so much respect that i had my eye opener, another escape, cant tell u how good it feels to be able to recognise the wrong ones, this gut feeling is such a damm good thing

[Suntree]

Good for you to trust your gut. I am still trying to readjust to what is normal behaviour in some things and what isn’t.

When I started dating I went through the grateful stage, just grateful that someone was talking to me I grew out of that quite quickly. I gave myself permission to grow and learn.

I think I need to give myself permission to learn and grow again with joy. Thank you for reminding me that how we feel is important and doesn’t need to be justified to anyone. 🙂

[Confused123]

Hi HUn

Yes i went throught that stage to , where u just want some one to say they love u, my new journey since left ex has been really good in sense i am rediscovering myself and will never be out as second or third best, i know exactly what i want in a guy

[Serenity]

Sorry you experienced this, Confused.

I’m in no hurry to meet someone, though part of me really would love a partner.

I’ve got a clear idea of the qualities which I feel are essential in a partner, such as kindness and honesty, and I won’t budge on these prerequisites!

Good that you could spot it. Carry on achieving and discovering you x

[danicali]

yes, one thing we learn is how to spot an abusive man a mile away… I have ruled out potential people to date within minutes of chatting to them because they say something that raises red flags lol… call it a gift now I guess right? or x ray specs… we see all now x

[Nova]

Confused totally right to listen to your instincts…it’s the only way.
Have the BS-Monitor! on at all times!
I chatted with a guy recently he starts droaning on about himself and his ex…no thanks. Run a mile!
Stick to your instincts!

Cx

[Glassbutterfly]

Just thought I’d throw this out as it helped me so much and helped me to realise I wasn’t going crazy.
I used the Claires law, here’s a link to an article, fully explains what the law is, how to access etc.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/womens-life/11369454/Clares-Law-Find-out-if-your-partner-has-a-history-of-abuse.html

I’m never quite sure of my instincts anymore and still feel discombobulated about everything. Im no where even thinking about a new relationship, the thought just makes me feel sick, however it’s reassuring to know that if I did start dating etc or yourselves “especially” if your considering a relationship, you can call your local police station or dial 101 and ask to evoke Claires law, they will talk you through it and its very informative.
I believed my ex to have a few convictions but it turned out to be 27 and a two page horror story timeline, that dated back years. You do sign a legal document, so you cannot speak to anyone about what has been disclosed, except to authority etc
I hope this helps and don’t feel silly, the girls dad that fought for this law, his daughter, Claire died, so use it, inform yourselves and stay safe.

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