This topic contains 4 replies, has 5 voices, and was last updated by  Twisted Sister 5 months, 2 weeks ago.

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  • #69915

    Hi all

    I left my ex a short while ago, and much to his annoyance I refused to be friends with him on any type of social media after we split. For the last 2 weeks every day I get a message from a friend to say he has tried to add/follow them on social media. I’m not sure if this is behaviour I should worry about, part of me thinks it’s probably just morbid curiosity, or even boredom, but the other part of me worries that it is a bit stalker-like behaviour and it makes me feel anxious. Should I be concerned? x

  • #69917
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    it may be that hes trying to get them on side, its called triangulation, have a look on google its a tactic to try to gain contact again to resume what they were doing. make sure your friends simply block him, id ignore him from there xx hope this helps xx

  • #69920

    You can be sure he doesn’t intend anything good by it, Littlemisshope!

    Abusers will try to isolate their target by spreading rumours, telling lies, portraying themselves as victims and manipulating others to influence you. I would message your friendship group to alert them and ask them to ignore or refuse his request. If they don’t you may have to prune them from your friends list. Remember, he will be able to access posts in which you and any of your friends have accepted his request tag each other. Look to your privacy settings!

    Flower x

  • #69933

    It’s his way of keeping tabs on you through third parties. Warn your friends and double check your own settings and get your friends to check theirs too.

    IWMB 💕🐟

  • #69988
     Twisted Sister 

    Make sure you update your privacy settings xclude ‘friends of friends’, ensure all options are set to ‘friends only’.

    It might be possible also to set your Farcebook page up as a closed group and add yopur friends in only.

    If him find you on Farcebook, or any social media puts you at risk, then I seriously wouldn’t bother, and would avoid any social media.

    Warmest wishes ts

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