Trying to cope with PTSD and Bad Nightmares

[weather]

It’s been a very long time since I was separated and eventually divorced from my ex-partner. I still can’t believe that I’ve survived so much. I’ve also been single for a very long time, which can be very hard at times. My whole life was turned upside down when I finally planned on leaving my abusive relationship, and I never really got the chance to heal. I sometimes wonder if you ever really heal or find a way of living with the trauma. Domestic abuse isn’t like having a broken arm; sometimes the abuse can be covert and emotionally manipulative, which can’t always be visible. There are also days when I miss what I had and can’t identify the abuse that took place. I realise that those are fleeting moments, and it was domestic abuse that I went through. I wanted to write here today as I feel as if I’ve been carrying a lot of emotional baggage, and writing helps me to cope.

Thank you for reading my message.

Keep well,

Weather

[Lisa]

Hi weather,

Thank you for sharing these thoughts. I’m so glad that writing here helps you to cope. Healing from the trauma of abuse can take a really long time and, for so many, won’t look like being able to go back to the person you were before it happened. Trauma-focused talking therapies can help. You might be able to access this through your GP, or find a therapist on the BACP website. There’s also the resources from Bloom that are focused on supporting people to heal from trauma. They’re self-directed but were created in partnership between mental health professionals and survivors.

Take care and keep posting,
Lisa

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