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      Fluffybunnies
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      Hi I’ve been in therapy for over 2yrs and I’ve reached the point where I realise how scared I’ve been even (detail removed by moderator) after I made the first break. I have started divorce proceedings when I went to the solicitor I took all the mediation and court orders he put on me so I had to stay in the home until our daughter finished education.

      (detail removed by moderator) dropped into the conversation that the big boss had offered to have me disappear but he said no he did it all in jest like it was some big joke I now realise a lot more and had shut this out of my brain until I found some papers I wrote when we split it was not in these notes as it happened between now and then. The thing is I’ve gained the upper hand he is not use to me standing up to him and now I am starting to remember thing which im taking to therapy to work on but in the mean time im starting to feel like im watching my own back, (detail removed by moderator)

      what would people recommend I do? Finding a rental is hard I own a lot of one type of animal which makes renting hard. Do I try and move? Shut down my phone etc to stop it being able Tobe tracked? Can I change the locks on the house I live in that he owns?
      Do I just laugh off that he was joking thinking it was a funny story or take it as a threat to keep me in my place? Should I report it years later and have a record of the things he did and tries to. Part of me feels like im being ott and to give myself a slap as their are people in real danger it makes me feel like Im being a bit dramatic

      Thanks x

       

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      Lisa
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      Hi,

      Thank you for your post. I’m sorry to hear about your situation. you are not being dramatic- its understandable that his comment is playing on your mind. That is a very serious threat and he knows this will scare you- there is no way this could be taken as a joke.

      Its completely up to you where you go from here. Rights of Women are a voluntary organisation offering free, confidential legal advice on matters including family law, domestic abuse, children and child contact issues. Their Family law advice line can advise around domestic abuse; divorce, finances, cohabitation and property in relationship breakdown; parental responsibility and child arrangements. They are available on 0207 251 6577 (Tues-Thurs 7-9pm and Fri 12-2pm). They also have a line for women in London on 020 76-8 1137 (Mon 10am-12pm and 2-4pm, Tues-Weds 2-4pm, Thurs 10am-12pm and 2-4pm).

      It would also be helpful for you to have more support around your safety. I would suggest contacting your local domestic abuse service for more support.

      Best Wishes

      Lisa

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