Update. 📝

[Busyditch]

It’s a (removed by moderator) since I left now and I’ve not been posting here because by the time I finish typing things change. I’m utterly exhausted but struggle to sleep there is so much to think about. Yesterday all the professionals contacted me, like a tsunami following the long bank holiday! I guess they all received their emails on the Tuesday so they made contact yesterday. Housing, benefits, therapy, social services, GP and a well-being person. 😳

I’m obviously not used to single life after being married for many decades. The safe house uses a smart card to prepay for gas & electric… I ran out of both at the weekend. 🥶

I have and still am feeling overwhelmed and alone despite the services contacting me. Covid has had such massive effect on my life before I left and now. It’s a bit like because my eyes don’t see people it’s hard to believe they are there??? Does that make sense?

Anyway, I just wanted to let you know I’m still here, in the safe house with my youngest son ((removed by moderator)) and I still come to the forum multiple times a day.

Thank you again for your support here, it has been such massive help. 🍫

PS I do love a good emoji!!! You may have noticed!! 🐒

[beachhut]

Hi busyditch,

So nice to hear from you and that you are safe and doing ok.

Oh my some things are so overwhelming when you are out, when your power was taken from you for so long you doubt so much, and think you are not capable of doing things by yourself anymore. Well you are, I posted some time age that I was so proud that I have done an order on line (never allowed to do that) well no stopping me now. Things will fall into place slowly but surely and you will realise how this single life is ok. Ups and downs, but the ups come more frequently now, early days, but it will get better.

Take care of you and your son, beachhutXx

[Busyditch]

Thank you. It’s been a long time coming but I feel so unprepared.

[KIP.]

It’s going to get easier. I had to limit myself to three things a day. It could be cooking 🍳 , opening Mail and bringing the bin 🗑 in. So don’t think you need to do everything at once. Pace yourself. Your headspace will be full of trauma. So break everything down in to bite sizes. How do you eat an elephant 🐘? One teaspoon at a time 😀. And maybe set yourself one call to return each day. I was always overwhelmed with the need to deal with it all right away. You don’t need to. In fact eventually I would leave everything at least 24 hours before responding x

[Busyditch]

Yay… emojis!!🙌🏽

[Eggshells]

Hi Busyditch.

😄🙉👍

Glad to hear you’re safe.

Try not to let it all overwhelm you. Just one thing at a time. You need time to settle, wind down and reboot.

A whole new, safe life awaits you. xx

[Living Warrior]

I am so proud of you and so so happy that you got the courage to leave. Like everyone had said, one step at a time.. do not rush, as it basically can set you back.
Always be kind to yourself, if u struggle with this then imagine u are ur own best friend… if she came to you with this situation what would you say to her…
This technique helped me alot and still does.
Good luck on ur journey x*x

[Eggshells]

Another week has flown by! How are you getting on?

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