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How do I even get started on leaving. He’s in my home and of course doesn’t listen to me telling him to get out, he’s refusing to leave as I owe him money and threatening to take everything he’s paid for in my home out. I just want him to agree to part ways I can’t deal with more stress and I certainly don’t want that for the kids, unrealistic I know but I don’t want to have to go to the police, to fight for my kids in court or any of that. I just want him gone I don’t want to wake up a prisoner in my own home anymore….
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Tell him to take what he wants and go. Call his bluff. My recent ex did this plus more excuses, all manipulation tactics because they know we won’t go through with it if we hit a dead end. The things he takes you can eventually buy again, there’s no price on freedom.
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Hi ihavenofriends,
I have tried this an as you said it never happens but (detail removed by Moderator) for the first time I contacted the police and changed the locks on my front and back door so he can no longer get in…. I feel so much better for actually going through with it but then his family decided to show up uninvited to convince me anything can be fixed ironic really given how his is during his love bombing moments.. I just prey I can stand my ground and follow through to freedom.
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Stand your ground, I wish I had a few years ago when I did exactly the same as you. As soon as he was out I changed the locks, felt a sense of freedom. Had his family stick up for him but what I didn’t think of at the time is they are not to blame, they only listen to his truth and don’t see what goes on behind closed doors. I eventually took him back but regretted it literally a week later but a few years down the line I’ve recently got him out and determined that’ll it’ll stay that way this time, the change in my kids already makes me keep going. Even hes putting guilt on me, homeless wanting to stay over, ive refused. We got this 💪
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Oh my, I can relate so much and although you didn’t the first time, it’s nice to hear that you managed to get him out properly and stick to it this time. Happy for you and the change you’ve made for you and your kids, keep going!! And how frustrating is it because the guilt is killing me right now knowing he’s going to have to go and live at his moms if she accepts him in I honestly just feel bad but at the same time like I’ve gotten further than I ever have before and the same as you I’m starting to notice the effects on my eldest and I just want him to be happy because he really struggles with his emotions despite being so young.
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