What do I do

[Tulips]

I have written on here before and am ashamed to say I am still in the same place. I dont mean to sound OTT and understand many are going through so much, but i am in utter despair, right now I am in my child’s room after my partner went off on one because when i was trying to sleep (he has depression) and got angry that i wouldnt answer him when he was saying how sh** life is with me because i dont give him time and ignore him, he is now downstairs playing (detail removed by Moderator) music really loud, i begged to turn it down so not to wake little one and he threw (detail removed by Moderator) around the room whilst screaming. My child was woke by this, who I have comforted back to sleep but am stuck, there’s no reasoning with him, I can’t wake my child to leave the house as I don’t want to scare him.

[KIP.]

Contact your local womens aid at the first opportunity. Depression doesn’t cause domestic abuse. That’s a choice he makes and it will only get worse. If you feel threatened please ring 999. You need help to get out safely. What he’s doing is child abuse and you both deserve better.

[Tulips]

Thankyou for replying. It has completely crossed the line scaring my little one. He has apologised this morning, I am packing up some bits but with absolutely no where to go. (detail removed by Moderator) All my money is tied up in our mortgage. I feel so trapped. I’ve been pushed and kicked on the floor in a previous relationship but this time it feels more detrimental, more than likely because I have a child to protect this time.

[Hereforhelp]

Message you local CAB (citizens Advice), no matter where you work there’s help help for you. National abuse helpline is also helpful. You do not have to live loke this. Mental health does not cause abusive behaviour, he does that to keep you there and will become the biggest victim. Keep posting ❤️

[Hereforhelp]

Well done for posting on here, you have nothing to be ashamed of, your partner does xx

[Bananaboat]

Remember how you and your child are feeling right now.

Because once his rage subsided he’s going to expect you to just forget and carry on but that feeling you have now is what will keep you moving forward. Focus on your little one, they hear and feel all of this. If you can’t leave today then use the next few days / weeks to start collecting important documents somewhere safe, contact woman’s aid and others when he’s not around. And don’t be scared to call the police and as others have said you have nothing to be ashamed for, many of us stayed hoping we were wrong or he’d change, sometimes you just have to stay until you reach a certain point of no more. xx

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