My close friend has started using a dating app. I am worried about someone she has met on it, only texting so far but due to meet up. I think there are red flags, she doesn’t. I’m feeling really triggered and terrified for her (and also me… I do not want any more contact with toxic harmful men). She asked my opinion on what he’d written about an ex and I tried to indicate some concern and she defended him. I said she needs to ask other friends and not just me as I will be very wary of people. It’s making me very stressed and anxious. She is a very close friend so I want to support her, protect her but also protect myself and my own well-being. I hope this makes sense. Any thoughts on how to handle this please?
My advice is to back off. Let her do her own thing especially as this is going to trigger you. You’ve given her your opinion based on your experience and that’s all you can do. My senses were very altered for a long time I overreacted and was extremely sensitive to lots of situations. Abuse taints us and our decision making for a long time. Just be there if she needs your support.