What to Wear

[Dragonfly]

I’ve recently been sorting through my clothes, boots, shoes etc. I’ve suddenly realised I have quite a lot. Stuff I’ve not worn in years (they weren’t suitable apparently). In fact they are normal things, nice things and some dressy going out things.

I’ve tried on some boots and jeans for example and thought I look not bad in that outfit. Pre abuse I wore what I wanted when I wanted. It’s dawned on me even my clothes were checked and scrutinised.

Now I feel my confidence coming back. I’m starting to wear these things again (albeit I’ve managed to put on a stone and a half unfortunately)!!

It’s just a good feeling to choose something and go out. No stress 😃

[Lisa]

Hi Dragonfly,

This is lovely to hear. I’m glad to hear your confidence is coming back, you deserve to wear what you want and more importantly feel good about it

Best Wishes

Lisa

[Freedomfighter]

Hi Dragonfly,
I know what you mean about having your clothes censored. Mine just says
Mmmm, yeah looks okay, but why don’t you wear this. I never felt comfortable in the clothes he bought and chose.
I’ve realised that my confidence was growing and I was wearing what I liked, but since my nerves got bad again with the stress of all this planning I’ve started wearing black, big baggy clothes again. I must make an effort to wear some nice clothes and moisturise and wear my makeup again. I’ve let everything slip again. Thanks for your post it’s reminded me I need to look after myself, so thank you. Enjoy your clothes and have fun

[KIP.]

Hey Freedomfighter. 👠 high heels. Make you feel fab x 💄💋bit of Lippy too x

[Dragonfly]

Sometimes making a little effort gives a massive boost. 😉

[fridges]

I was forced to wear very ugly clothes, and no surprise if I was feeling ugly, as they did make me look ugly. I could not buy new things for myself, it was not allowed. When he was buying, it was according to his taste. Which made me look older for 20 years. As he was old himself, wanted me to match him, not matching to me, it was not possible:)
Now I feel so happy that I can wake up and choose my clothes, dress nicely, according to my style.
I was always well dressed woman, with good taste. But he forbid me to choose things, he was becoming violent and abusive, if i wanted something nice. I hope all women who are here on the site, will find the way out, rebuild their lives and feeling happy + content.

[Dragonfly]

They are very controlling. I’m just so glad I can make my own decisions now without judgement xx

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