Where do I go from here?

[Butterfly-A]

Recently, I feel like everything around me is changing and I am stuck in the same place.
The people I have opened up to about my situation (in (removed by moderator) and at work) are starting to move on. Soon, I will be leaving the (removed by moderator) institution (my main support is from here and whilst I was glad I had been able to open up to someone at work and they were super understanding and supportive, I received a message today they will be leaving.
Just feeling like its one step forward and 10 steps back.
Not really sure where the future lies.
Wish I didn’t feel so effected by the movements of other people.

My heart is heavy to walk away and watch them go.
I don’t think I can do this on my own.

I have an absolutely incredible friend that has supported me for years, but we no longer live close to each other and I feel like a massive burden to her.
I want to see my life going forward but I don’t think I can do it without these people around me.
Because of the nature of professional roles, their support has really stayed inside the workplace so I don’t have any other contact for them.

I did reach out to Solace recently but I felt like I was shut down because I hadn’t left the relationship.

[Mumofcats]

Sorry you finding yourself in such a situation.

I too found lots of support at work from 1 person specifically. Thanks to them, they pointed me towards this website. I used the chat and then got in touch with a local organisation. That organisation has been amazing and my case worker is being so supportive. They know that leaving might not be on the plate at the moment for x, y, z reasons but they don’t judge. They SUPPORT.

If you can, have a look if there’s another local organisation near you who can give you face to face support.

Friendships do change, not specifically because the friend is not friend with you anymore, but because life changes , we lose touch, people have their own stuff going on we don’t know about.

Might be worth asking the person at work who’s leaving if you can stay in touch in a way or another? Tell them their support has been invaluable.
The worst case scenario they might say no, in which case it will not change the situation. And best case they’ll say yes.

Hope you get the support you need.

Take care xx

[TiredZiggy]

As above, if u can try to get out there to meet people within the local community. I took a course run by the council. I’m very scared of meeting new people so I completed the course online, but that opened others doors for me which has help build my confidence and given me the opportunity to meet new people. I’m still in my situation, it doesn’t mend everything but it’s changed me and made be stronger. Stay safe…

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