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      I’ve had a terrible few days at work. My relationship ended shortly before (detail removed by moderator) and I’ve been with the kids on my own since. My ex won’t see them on his own as he just wants me back but I’m not going down that route. I have self esteem issues but an still coming to terms that I was in a long term abusive relationship. I’ve since been put on a development plan because I need to be more confident. Within it it mentions several times that I am timid and weak along with other things. Now I’m trying my best but I am absolutely exhausted. I’ve basically been told I should be over this by now but I’m just so tired and angry and fed up. I just want to curl up and sleep for a week. Is it just me being weak or should they be actually trying to help me instead of just making my life harder?

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      I’m no expert in this, but what they are telling you does not seem normal at all… First, it’s a process, and you are very fresh out of the relationship. If anything it would be surprising you would have made any progress at all! I personally have been out for a couple of years and still don’t feel “healed”.

      Also, there are certain personal traits that are more or less malleable, and if you want to become less shy or timid, that is fine and I am sure you can get there. But there is nothing wrong with being timid or shy, and it seems like they have maybe shamed you in that programme for that somehow? That is not ok.

      Do not let them make you feel bad for anything.
      Could you tell us a bit more about what sort of programme is it? That seems a rather unconventional approach, to say the least…

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