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      Startingtogo
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      I’ve had one of the worst weekends of my life.

      Last (detail removed by moderator) for no reason my partner said she wanted to punch me, I said that’s not a good idea and left the table. (detail removed by moderator) I was sitting upstairs to hear my parent enter the room and from behind punch me twice on my head. This was followed by a lot of pushing and shoving and bring told I had 5 minutes to leave the house. I hurriedly picked up some clothes, key documents and my work computer and left. I also left our two beautiful dogs behind. I haven’t been back since nor communicated with my partner.

      Since then I’ve been sofa surfing but am now settled with a very kind friend. I’ve reported this incident and previous physical and emotional abuse to the police and am awaiting their response. My solicitor has told me that I could seek an occupational order to try and get my partner out of our house. I have a right to enter the property as we jointly own the house but why put myself at risk to go back into the violent situation.

      I feel so angry that my abusive partner is still in our house with the dogs and I’m left scrabbling for somewhere to stay,

      Does anyone have any ideas on how I should deal with this. Why the hell should the absue get to stay but we’re forced out for our own safety and left with the misery of trying to get by without proper sheltet and support and the things that we love and care for (yes I’m talking the dogs, but they’re my babies).

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      Lisa
      Main Moderator

      Hello Startingtogo,

      I am sorry to hear you’re been through this, it is incredibly unfair when women have to leave their family home and everything they know to flee domestic abuse, it can be so distressing and frustrating.

      An Occupation Order sounds like a good option if your partner has legal rights to the property. You could contact DV Assist who are a specialist injunction charity for more information and support with getting the process of an injunction started. They are on 0800 195 8699.
      https://www.dvassist.org.uk/

      I’m sure others will be along with further support soon.

      Take care and keep posting,
      Lisa

    • #129288
      KIP.
      Participant

      Hi, I went for an occupation order and my ex wasn’t allowed in the house until the legal side of things were settled. It gave me time and space to get things in order and as you say, why should you be homeless when you have done nothing wrong. Make sure you keep a journal and all the evidence you can. If you can get your pets when the house is empty I’d do that. If there is any contact please don’t engage and report it to the police. Is there a third party you could use for communication if needed?

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