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      Numbnumb
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      A guy just came to give me a quote for something my abuser would have done if we were together,but this guy was so like him ,when he left I’m sitting here sobbing saying out loud how much I want my husband. I have to come on here to remind myself of the awful things they do to us 🙁

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      Numbnumb
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      Not meant to be a thread as such. Just helped to say it . Thanks womens aid.

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      Hi Numbnumb,

      Its normal to miss your husband don’t feel bad for having those feelings. Pain does’nt mean you made the wrong descision when we get lonely and scared enough it can trick us. But if you left because ur husband kept crossing lines just know you made the right descion and YOUR FUTURE YOU will LOVE YOU FOR THIS!

      Once i remmeber i was trying to leave my husband and i hopped on to the bus and heard other men speaking about porn and women in a degrading way. It made me run home back to my abusive husband and even give him flowers after our fight (when he was in the wrong). i though choosing my hubby is the lesser of two evils.
      maybe we shouldnt choose between the lesser of two evils maybe we should get someone completely different.

      if the guy reminded you of your husband lookswise/personality wise i can really see how this is upsetting and it may make u long for him.
      as time goes by you will come to realise you dont want someone who is anything like your husband at all.

      i ran back to my husband a million times because i missed him, a few seconds of him being the nice guy in the begining wasnt worth the pain he caused me.
      The earlier you leave and never go back the more its better the longer we stay the more we suffer.

      i really feel the same way as u i miss my husband like crazy but i know hopefully one day looking over the pics of my bruises, the medical records, the memories (good and bad) i will see it for what it is.
      the times these men are nice to us isnt genuine either its to groom us.

      you deserve more and dont worry its normal to miss him, watch a funny tv show, see some friends, pray to god, eat some nice food, go shopping or wear a face mask do what you love doing.
      do what you couldnt do when u was with him!
      we are all here for you 🙂 <3

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