Thank you for your message, my head is a whirl. I have allowed him contact as I feel he is a good dad and don’t want the baby to miss out on this important bond but it is killing me seeing him, think the 3rd party advise is great but with all that is happening in the world at the minute would this even be safe? Or am I just being parionoid?? My brain literally will not work for me. It has been a very recent thing and I have just found out he is txting someone else… I am disgusted and heartbroken and he can’t get his head around this as I was the one to leave him. Struggling to keep my head above water… Thank you for your lovely comments and suggestions x