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Well done you. You are now on the journey to a new life, one that you deserve. Keep going and be strong and brave, like the woman you really are x

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It’s abuse. You’re children should not have to witness this and you deserve better. You know in your mind this is not right or you wouldn’t be here. It won’t improve so start making plans now to remove yourself and your children. Keep a journal of every incident. You’re already being strong and standing up for yourself. (detail removed by Moderator) bullies hate being confronted because they are ultimately weak which is why they do it and because they know they can get away with it. Be strong

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Hang on in there, you’re children will eventually see the reality of the situation no matter how long it takes. I grieve for you because I’ve been there. Hang on and look after yourself, then you will be able to look after them when they come back.

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Thank you KIP. The truth does set us free, great quote. My daughter simply can’t get her head around the fact that her benign little grandma could have done such a terrible thing. And Al the family think I’m unstable because I’ve been depressed for (detail removed by Moderator) years. Even having given some precise details none of them can face or acknowledge it. The illusion of family is everything and if you burst the bubble you’re in for it. I know I did the right thing for me to salvage what is left of my life, at any cost, because I deserve it. One day she may come to understand, that would be nice.

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Do not go back. You’ve already come so far you know it was right to leave or you wouldn’t have. It’s hard in the early days and we all wobble. I nearly went back and it would have been a catastrophe. Your children will eventually understand as they get older, like mine did, that it was the right thing to do. It will be tough both now and in the future but you did the right thing for you and your children. Little story: my child announced to me at (detail removed by Moderator) that she wanted to live with her dad because they are so very exciting and shower them with gifts etc and life at home is domestic, boring and routine by comparison. I was heartbroken but kept my head and suggested she spend the 6 week summer holiday with him and then make a decision. I knew exactly what would happen. After 6 weeks she came home and they never spoke to each other again because she saw the reality. Worked rather too well.

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Don’t tell him, just leave. Go anywhere but go somewhere. I ran away with an (detail removed by Moderator) old baby. I later called to say I’d left and that if he came anywhere near me I would call the police. Keep it minimal and do not get into a conversation. Leave it there. Good luck.

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A leopard never changes his spots. When I left my abusive partner with an (detail removed by Moderator) old baby he pursued me for (detail removed by Moderator) years with gifts, apologies etc. I so nearly went back but didn’t. He later lived with another woman and upon bringing my daughter back from his access visit said to me he was going to marry this woman if I didn’t come back, which I didn’t. Some time later on another access return I said ‘I thought you were going to marry x upon which he replied’ why would I marry her, she’s a whore like all the others’. They are sick and will never recover. He did marry the poor young thing and she suffered terribly. Thre kids but luckily for all of them he died before he could damage them irreparably too. Stay and do not contact, it will go on forever

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