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Be super kind to yourself happy skies. I think we all have days where we are handling this better than other days.
You were hurt and it’s ok to see the pain and the damage, but it is now in your past and you get to live now in your present. I find focusing on what I have now, even small things like buying myself some flowers, or sitting in a beautiful place and listing all the things I see, can move my brain out of a place where it’s ruminating on what happened.
A year isn’t long. Be gentle with your lovely self.

[Birdsstillsing01]

I’ve been through similar process and the best thing I can tell you is you are not alone. It completely crap that we have to pick up the pieces of their mess and chaos, but everyday for me I was so thankful that I was free that it gave me the determination to power through.
Take one day at a time, and if possible give yourself moments of something nice just for you. Even if it’s 5 min longer in the shower or buying yourself some flowers.
We are strong in ways these men cannot imagine and you will get through this time. Keep on going we are cheerleading you 🌻

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Thx for sharing the hope, on my worst days I kept thinking ‘the birds still sing’ every morning, even after the darkest coldest night, they still sing 🎶

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Thanks for taking the time to write this. I really appreciate it. It’s just what I needed to hear, that there is hope 🙏.
I’m just trying to take each day at a time, but you’re right the pain in my heart is very heavy at times.

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Super tough isn’t it, keep looking out for them and look after yourself too x

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Thx for replying x

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Hiya
Thx for the kind message, it is incredibly hard and still struggling with my own guilt that he is their dad and these awful things happened to us.
But it is good they are talking to me and that they still trust me. Just so hard that this was our life for so long, even though we are free now. They are having some therapy now, me too, so hopefully that will help.

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Thx for taking the time to reply. Yes it’s difficult trying to work out the boundaries. But you’re right taking it slowly is a good plan. I like the debrief idea. Thx

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Thanks for your reply. I’ll think about this. It’s more his behaviour now and feeling completely exposed which is absolutely freaking me out. Very difficult to manage the fear.

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Thanks for replying, having a bad morning, I have cameras and panic alarm, plus school very supportive and would let me know if he got in touch.
I think today it’s the weight of the reality of living like this. Always on edge and vigilant just in case. It’s exhausting.

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