Butterfly…

[Butterfly…]

Thank you again and for sharing, I have recently looked into play therapy not sure if this will be able to go ahead now (with lockdown) but extra mummy time will hopefully help too. I feel you have shared just what I needed to hear, not sure if I am in denial but alcohol certainly played a part with my ex too. I also have been encouraging my child to let it out and recently after my eldest was frustrated instead of the usual rage he has he burst into tears and I had a bitter sweet moment of feeling so proud of him showing emotion, channelling it in a better/positive way (& as upsetting as it is to see your child upset I also felt proud of him and me for achieving that after so long, hopefully with more support which he gets from school and reassuring words from your self that some of what I’m trying is working along with counselling for him and I, there will not be too many more reoccurring issues. Your right it is so hard to see them upset and I shall certainly continue to try anything along with pinching yours and now your sons words as you clearly are doing a good job yourself 🥰, thank you again x

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Hi Eggshells,
Thank you for reading and responding, your right there are good days and bad, I have a family member telling me to call him out on his shit as it’s messing up our children and that’s both our problems we don’t talk, but for me & them if it didn’t work in the time we were together for them, why waste my breath anymore now, I’m happier therefore I’m happier for my children, also the energy that goes into that just isn’t worth it and gives me terrible anxiety. An example would be emails regarding xmas presents for children (so not to duplicate) on paper he looks like the caring though full dad, but reality is they received zero, he knows that would of upset them and in turn pressed my button to speak up fir them and then it starts again should I speak for them, yes yes I should, but then no what’s the point, I mean who doesn’t give their kids something on Christmas Day, Boxing Day, the next interaction. It’s so hard but at the same time how do you know when/if at all to pick your battles with these men. To go round again in their Merry go round.

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Thank you Hetty

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Hi Hetty, not sure I’m replying in the right but thank you so much fir taking the time to reply and read.

He actually left me (detail removed by moderator) ago it’s taken a long time to “understand” what it was I going through and if it wasn’t for me taking advices and actually writing it down I don’t think I’d be where I am now, it’s just so hard to accept all the shoulda woulda couldas we’re just that, unfulfilled promises, words, I have learnt the hard way actions speak louder than words. Even now with the children on paper (email)he seems like the dad of the year but his absence, emotional neglect and drama made of Christmas and his constant emails regarding presents contact for children to not arrange anything and give them no presents not even a card is hard for them and for me to swallow, I’m trying no contact best I can with children and grey rock but it is so hard when they hurt and don’t understand. Thank you again and encouraging me to post a little more….

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