Confused123

[Confused123]

hi hun

leaving is never easy and can unsettle us as well as kids.firstly welldone for taking the first step of leaving and reaching out. yes kids will miss their house but they are also very adaptable.

dont fall for the trick we should still go on holiday for kids sake, this will add more confusion to them. THe idea of getting rabbit is a good idea, will your landlord allow that, how about include them and allow them to be involced in the choosing.

if he choses not to speak to his dad, dont force him, he will when his ready. not sure of age of child so cant guide too much, but i believe in listening to what the child is saying. you as an adult will make the right choice. keep reaching out to us ladies, we really arem supportive and advise on previous experience of being in a abusive realtionship.

reasure your child u love himm and gently keep reminding him why u had to leave when he says he want to go home.

[Confused123]

do not talk to him, he will rip u apart again and take advantage of hearing how he made u feel, seek counselling instaed

[Confused123]

hey hun

its normal for them to set a trigger off, slowly it gets better, if its any consulation, i have been out 4 years and if i hear the ex side of family are going to be at a function im attending, sets my mood off too

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agree with u hun, its a lovely way of just confirming things we can’t see as clearly, so hasn’t messaged me again but pissed me off by sending friend request to my friend, hopefully only sent to one but u know when u just that a feeling know that’s not the case , im glad my friend told me and ask who he was, i just immediately blocked him from social media so he cant see any of my friends

[Confused123]

hey lovely

have you ever had counselling for the abuse you experienced, i found when my body was relaxed i was able to process the trauma , counselling really helped me, maybe tellign your partner u r having flash backs and she can support u

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this is what i love about this site,we can talk openly about our dating experience, how we feel and how they make us .it is a eye opener when u see how these men behave, ive met some really charming men who are just friends and have really touched my heart how much of a gentleman they are , and the shocking ones. so glad u ladies are giving me the strength not to reply to him, yes he texted this morning just to wish me a good day ,but im not going to reply. maybe his not as bad as i think,but im not gonna risk it, keeping well away, there is a reasson why my body is reacting the way it is , and imm just gonna listen to my gut and u ladies xxx

[Confused123]

Hey twisted sister

What analysis , nearly fell for his stupid lines , these men are just not bothered , Bk on hunt for Prince Charming against.

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Hey Hun

Thxs for reply , definitely wake up call for me that he was testing me , bloody hell I didn’t even think of it from
That perspective. Just reading your posts gives me shivers of how I didn’t see it from that point , think needed to hear that , will definitely keep me away . Hope u keeping well well lovely xx your replies always were sharp and to the point from beginning

[Confused123]

hi lovely

u seem to have really nice patient boyfriend , i would continue to take slowly and as the other lady mentioned tell him u want to start slowly with sex and if u feel at some point u not ready to stop , i think he will understand.

[Confused123]

hey lovely

trying changing your diet, i know due to abuse i experienced i now have coeliac which keeps me very tired, by going gluten free my energy is returning slowly, its more about the body healing i believe for the years of beating my body took

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sending love to all you ladies, im in my forties and it hurts me so much when i hear ladies even at 50 are still been abused, sending love and strength to u, my mu is going through emotional and financial abuse too, its so hard to see, she wont leave o i just give her love and support and strength how to handle so it doesn’t break her

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thxs for reply, yes my gut is telling me to stay away from this man even though im really attracted to him , its quite eye opener how my body can sense this man is capable of hurting me, I was telling my best friend that even though im attracted to him I have a weird this feeling that is stopping me to get close and i only felt this b4 with my ex who for those of u know about my past relationship with ex was very dangerous and abusive for me, My friend waws saying i’m overthinking things and finding excuses not to sleep with him . But i just keep remebering that when i left ex the first thing i learnt was to trust my gut and not ignore. suppose by chatting with u ladies im just validating that i must stay away from him and break all communication, cause its sad but i just want him to message me and chat with me but then im thinking why do i feel the need for him so much. i told him (detail removed by moderator) i was breaking communication as we want different things and (detail removed by moderator) . feel so stupid that i thought he was into me

[Confused123]

Hey hun

Just take things slowly , no need to tell them about your past partner , just say u want to take slowly , your know how ready u r when u start dating

[Confused123]

Hi Hun

Block him on your phone, block him on email and get police to warn him not to make contact withu, u have to put things in place to protect yourself and heal, otherwise the contact will stop your progress, it does hurt but the no contact helps

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Hey Hun

Welldone for taking the first step, i can only repeat what the ladies have said above, you mentioned your not working.does he give any money for food shopping or clothes, i would start keeping some of that aside for emergency money for when u do leave , just to help u get in to refguee, and from there u can start seeing whaat beenfits your entitiled to, call the support line and ask for the agencies that can help you , and make a plan in advance

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