Thank you all,
He’s currently being overly nice, it just feels like an act now and I find myself getting more frustrated. I don’t know why I can’t just end it now, it just makes me feel so guilty because he’s being so nice? But I know ultimately he will just do it all again… I feel so awful for the children because they love him, but I also understand that it’s not healthy for them to be living like this.
Because I caught him early on he spent about 1/3 of what he usually does, but even when caught out he carried on just taking smaller amounts than he had been.
I’m trying my best to be sensible and choose the right time in the month money wise, which feels so cruel and is why it’s not happened before now… a person from the bank said to close our joint account when he’s been paid so it pays off the overdraft, but that feels cruel too… why do I forget so easily how awful I feel when I have to scrounge enough money to buy food for our children!!