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[Heythere]

Hi

Please understand you have done the right thing, you are controlling what you can, putting you and your family in a safe situation and moving on.

A child in need plan is not saying you are a bad parent at all, it is about giving support if/where needed for you and your children. Keep doing what you do, be honest with the services and you will be ok. Don’t hide anything or lie, services will need to know everything to advise you best, they won’t judge. Let them help. Don’t be embarrassed or ashamed or feel like it’s you even if you may have hit him, the violence from every part was wrong but you were being tormented and abused. Remember that and explain that to the services. Honesty is always best. You’re being strong and brave and should be proud of yourself.

You might feel this way for a while but it’ll pass. It’s your mind playing tricks on you. Focus on the good things in your life and like future plans like the holiday. It’s good it’s booked! Fingers crossed you can go. Keep going for long walks, clear your head and enjoy the fresh air. This helped me.

Reach out again if you feel like you’d like to chat.

[Heythere]

Stay Strong Hetty. Like the others have said, you do not need to dance to his tune any longer. Do what makes you happy. Seeing him will only hurt you and set you back more.

Your silence will hurt him so much. But your silence will make you strong and give you a much better chance.

Xx

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I haven’t had counselling I’m not ready to talk that openly but thank you so much xx

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Unfortunately they were useless. Xxx

[Heythere]

Thank you so much for this.

That’s really opened my eyes. Xx

[Heythere]

That sounds great. Thank you xx

[Heythere]

Thank you so much. This definitely hit home.

I think I will be more kind to myself and know it’s okay to have a bad day.

Thank you xxx

[Heythere]

Thank you for your message.

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That’s a brilliant idea, thank you. I will try that and hope it helps! I would have never thought of those.

I will give some books a go. Hoping to find some answers and stop looking for them within the relationship we once had.

It’s difficult knowing the relationship felt so perfect but was so far from it. It was just the manipulative power hungry abusive man who made me believe we had it so good.

Thank you so much. X x x

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Thank you for responding. I can resonate with that, I think maybe thoughts are coming out while I’m asleep. It’s such a scary thing. It feels so real and sometimes makes me want to contact him.

I will look into the local support.

Thank you so much. Today has been a tough one battling with my mind, but knowing this forum is here, is a big help.

Stay safe x x x

[Heythere]

That is really helpful. Thank you for your response. I will defiantly give that a go.

Stay Safe. Xxx

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