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[Howtohope]

thanks so so much – I really appreciate this. It is the overnights that I am most worried about. Really grateful thanks xx

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thank you ever so much – a women’s centre would be a good starting point. I saw a lawyer recently because when I said no for the first time to them, the threats came fast and furious and her father insisted on mediation to force me to give him the access that he wants – He refused to talk at all until mediation and then decided, after one session, that it wasn’t for him and that was the end of that. I am terrified of him all the time to be honest.
But when I saw the lawyer they just said that as he has parental responsibility a family court would encourage him to have more contact (at present he has only wanted to see her for three hours a week – and suddenly out of the blue they want her for the entire weekend). She would be so bewildered as to why she isn’t allowed to come home after school on a friday and why she can’t see her friends, go the parties that everyone else goes to etc. I never said an outright ‘no’. I only said that she is not ready yet and let’s think of ways to build up gradually.
I can’t bear them and never want to see them again. But I know of women in much worse and dangerous relationships in which the court has insisted on shared custody etc. So I wouldn’t want to go to court as the law, it seems, is too much of a blunt instrument and my little girl could end up in an even worse situation.

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