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    • #131978
      Ineedabreakplease
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      Thanks both, I can understand they’re individual and I guess I’m asking for the impossible – someone to tell me how this is all going to work out:) The date of my meeting with the police is still a little way away and I’m so nervous all day every day and my mind is racing, I’m struggling to focus at work but don’t think I can tell my employer what’s going on. I don’t know how I’ll get through all this..

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      Ineedabreakplease
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      Thanks for all your responses. I’ve just been shouted at for (removed by moderator) because he doesn’t want them in contact with anyone else and is using Covid as an excuse to isolate us further. I logged on here after and felt really supported, thank you. I am going to look into local support options, I think it would do me the world of good to talk things through with someone if I am brave enough to take that step. Though I am not sure what excuse I’ll use for being away.

      Spiderweb, sorry you are in a similar situation, you sound very strong and I hope you’ll get away. I can’t help but feel like a bit of a ‘fake’ because I am not suffering physical abuse and someone else may need support more than me. I have a good job and feel pretty well accomplished in all other areas of my life. I just wish I was stronger when it comes to him, he just wears me down. I have always hated confrontation so I think I’ve let him get away with too much over the years. Every time he senses I’m getting stronger and won’t accept his nonsense, he seems to give me a glimpse of what life could be like if he always acted ‘normal’ and it’s all I’ve ever wanted.. But someone mentioned above the good times don’t matter if the bad times are abuse, such truth and I’ll keep reminding myself of this.

    • #129964
      Ineedabreakplease
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      Thanks. To be honest I feel strong and ready one minute and an absolute mess the next. I’ve never spoken to anyone about his emotional abuse, in fact I actively cover it up (keeping up appearances, it’s sad I know). The thought of going to anyone to talk about the issue fills me with dread, he has isolated me from friends and I don’t have family in the UK so I kind of struggle to have those open and honest conversations. I will try to get support from women’s aid, I think I need someone who has my back when I feel weak.

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