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The human magnet syndrome – the codependent narcissistic trap – Ross Rosenberg
I hope this helps 💕

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Thank you all for your help and advice it really means a lot to me and makes me feel better about the current situation. We aren’t living together but I go round everyday and sleep round, I’m really worried that he is talking to someone else as he is very secretive with his phone and I’m too scared to even ask because he will turn it round on me and it cause an argument but in my head I’m going mad about it but I have to keep acting like I’m ok. It makes me upset because he didn’t use to be like this I know this might sound strange but I think when he used to hit me he actually loved me more and now he says he doesn’t care enough to hurt me. He always says that I’m unstable and I’m the one who keeps changing and it’s my fault he is how he is but it’s only because I can only put up with him being like this for so long and then I get stronger and think I can’t do this anymore so I don’t see him as much and I try to do more things for myself so he says I have changed but it’s only cause I’m standing up for myself and then he is nicer but then somehow he lures me back in and I’m weak again and I want to see him constantly so I guess I am changing and maybe it is my fault but he just says you will change again soon and your interests will change and then you won’t wanna see me for a few weeks and I will think what’s the point in being with you when I could have someone else and then he says well I don’t care anyway. Thank you again everyone 💞

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So now we have spoke because he said he missed me but he said he spoke to someone in a dating website for a little, couldn’t be bothered so messaged me instead … how is that supposed to make me feel and now he says I have changed because I stood up to to him so what I’m supposed to agree and do everything for him else I’m accused of changing, then he starts on the past again , we agreed to meet (detail removed by moderator) but I feel so frustrated and annoyed by him he won’t show me affection or love because he said he doesn’t feel close to me and that’s supposedly my fault and the one who has to fix that but when I try to be close to him he pushes me away ! Everything has to be his way and it’s not fair, he lies about things too and tests me all the time so see how much I’m willing to do for him and if I don’t do it then I have changed just like in the past but no I haven’t changed I just can’t deal with putting up with it so I snap! Thank you colouring in fairy for your reply and support and I wish you health and happiness for your future x

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