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    • #119121
      Justholdingon
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      Can you get a new number? I had my mobile number changed and got a new email address.

    • #119033
      Justholdingon
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      Is there any way that you can secretly store important documents at work? Build up a supply of them so when you are ready to go, you can.

      I posted most of my documents to my mum then when I was ready to go, I went and know I have lost the rest of my documents forever.

      I went to the council to ask them to get me out and he called to check where I was when I was there. The council lady saw the danger and arranged a place for me there and then.

      There’s some really helpful advice on the main women’s aid website. You don’t have to call the police, but he will never be reasonable enough to let you go.

    • #116456
      Justholdingon
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      Thank you. I feel so stupid having to say I can’t do this. Especially when the school knows he got away with what he did.

    • #116364
      Justholdingon
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      I find that talking to someone who doesn’t know me helps. I can’t cope with the reactions from people I know. Is there anyone you don’t know that you could talk to. I mean, there’s always us here. Would that be enough for you?

    • #115832
      Justholdingon
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      I’ve been waiting for over a year for trauma therapy. Would have started in March, but the therapist cancelled the appointment, blamed me, Covid got the next appointment when I had my daughter with me. She can’t know why I am so protective of her.

    • #115810
      Justholdingon
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      I did the freedom programme which showed me that I wasn’t mad and had been abused.

      I had forgotten some of what he did to me and started crying while I was reading something the other day which reminded me.

    • #115801
      Justholdingon
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      That was an amazing post. I’m glad you’re moving on and getting help. How did you do it?

    • #111090
      Justholdingon
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      Sometimes. I know we’re probably not supposed to, but sometimes. The price I have had to pay for leaving was very high. I think if the judge hadn’t agreed that I wanted to be hurt, it might have been easier.

      Most of the time, no.

    • #106539
      Justholdingon
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      I really would drop him. He’s already showing you red flags and worrying behaviour. Have you done the access course? It can help you to see the red flags for what they are.

    • #105036
      Justholdingon
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      Sleeping during the day is easier. Waking up to being attacked has left its marks on me.

      I was supposed to be starting trauma therapy in March, but that’s got all messed up and will probably never happen now.

    • #104972
      Justholdingon
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      Thank you

    • #104877
      Justholdingon
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      Please don’t feel guilty. We go through an awful lot before we are ready to call for help. You are being really brave!

    • #104865
      Justholdingon
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      I told my lo that we were going on a little holiday. Being in the refuge helped because she was around other children in the same situation.

    • #104039
      Justholdingon
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      My ex waited until he had stored my things in such a fashion that they were destroyed before demanding I send a van to collect them.

    • #101310
      Justholdingon
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      Hi Purplecloud,

      This would count as one of those “essential journeys”. You are allowed to leave, if you can.

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