lady lathbury

[lady lathbury]

Thank you Doris for opening up this conversation – everyone’s stories are so emotional and bring back memories of own past experiences. I have been online reading ‘The Centre for Women’s Justice Super-Complaint published in March 2019. Although it is distressing reading it does give some real case studies on domestic abuse which have ended tragically. There are many reasons why women do not leave an abusive relationship. As they point out, it may be that:
“The survivor is particularly vulnerable and may not feel able to leave an abusive relationship, give a statement or deal with a legal process in the civil or criminal courts”.
“She may fear the abuser and his retaliation for her taking action against him, or fear facing him in the family court.
They may lead chaotic lives due to drug or alcohol dependency, mental health problems, illiteracy or just having a lot of children and other demands to deal with. They may not have documents required to get legal aid or may not qualify for legal aid and not be able to afford to pay a solicitor, and be too intimidated to face the court process
Some women do not appreciate the degree of risk they are in from a violent partner and do not take steps to protect themselves, although the risks are clearly apparent to professionals.
I was lucky and got away from my abusive relationship many years ago now when I was in my late 30’s. I got away and my life just got better. I am (age removed by moderator) now and just lost a young friend of mine to domestic violence so I can only encourage all you women out there to get out while you can. You must share, you must talk to others – do not isolate yourself – you will need all the support you can get but it is worth it in the end. For those of you with children, you must do it for them. Be brave.

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