Mell

[Mell]

Thanks everyone. I really appreciate the support and advise, it really puts me in a better place than I was and more positive. I am contacting each person suggested and will keep you informed on progress. Xoxox

[Mell]

I confided in him as my lawyer…he knows I am willing to do what I could but he seems to be dishonest. I have been warned about (removed by moderator) but never thought it would come to past. Me and my child have no form of indetification and are in see of our immigration status as this lawyer would not update me.

Am I wrong to say our passports may be in use for fraud?

I have evidence to show I constantly pay him
Where do I start?
URGENT ADVICE NEEDED

[Mell]

Thanks KIP & FREEDOMTOCHOOSE…im not sure how my consulate could do but I will try. It’s just so depressing when you never knew this kind of abuse existed and what to do to get around the plan they pre orchestrated/ meditated .

[Mell]

I also now have to (detail removed by Moderator) why I took so long to call the police…why only once and why I need a non molestation order ? ???? I am wondering if they know the fear and anguish we go through especially with children and being threatened. No money and abusive partners who only allow you to work nearby if at all. I am on depression meds and I do t even think they work. I just think he has gotten into my head so much I’m just as he said stupid. Does anyone else feel this way? Like it’s worth giving up ? Should I even fight him or should I do as the police say and go back to my country with my child ? This is a (detail removed by Moderator)yr relationship of control I never knew existed. The only abuse we hear about is physical. How was I so blind to this emotional abuse? Was anyone told constantly they were uneducated and foolish? Been told get out their house with and in front of the child ..if they didn’t do as told? Without evidence how does (detail removed by Moderator) believe me even though all i have is womens aid helpline records,citizens advice and GP records ?

[Mell]

KIP. I am reading through and most these conversations relate to my situation. I managed to get me and my child his stepdaughter away from his abusive and controlling behaviour …now staying with friends since (detail removed by Moderator). I don’t work my child just got back into school thank goodness and I can now afford a lawyer. My ex cancelled our spousal visa which was part of his control…both me and my child are stressed and afraid and my ex totally denied ever doing us anything as he is filing for divorce. He constantly told me I won’t get anything and all I would get is deported. I am so depressed most days . I don’t eat or sleep well. The lawyer I have u borrow to try to pay him and all I am getting is a battle of back and forth letters of his abusive on “us” that he totally denies and said it was m e who did it to him. He is even claiming (detail removed by Moderator) if I do t succeed on proving evidence against him. My visa is spousal. How can I get a good lawyer who is qualified in abuse ..because I don’t think mine is and being I hab e no recorse to public funds can the lawyer be paid after settlement ? I am tryingv to get now a non molestat ion order which he is not accepting and challenging.

Please HELP ANYONE. I’m in desperate need to safeguard my child and myself and win this battle he is in control of.

[Mell]

Hello,

In my situation my husband was verbally abusive to a point he made you feel stupid , uneducated and worthless…his controlling me was not financially supporting me and my child who is his stepdaughter and using our immigration status as his weapon as he had brought us here and we have spousal visas. So he threatened us yes “us” my child as well who is a minor with deportation if we told anyone or tried to get help. He physically abused me ibfront of her and at that point I put all fear behind and called the police . Even though they came and saw him drunk and he assaulted me infront of my child they did nothing. NOTHING! they told me to pack up and go back to my country. Now my husband deniws EVERYTHING and is filing for divorce which and has cancelled our visa …..which he said he was going to do during his abuse. I am having trouble getting a police report as they said it didn’t make sense I wouldn’t succeed in court. I was totally not expecting this from the police. How can I save myself and child from deportation and prove he abused us. I have witnesses who saw him on few occasions and a few videos I tried to get of him drunk and abusive.

[Mell]

Thank you very much for your support guys.I will give it a go and see if I get myself sorted.oxoxo

[Mell]

Thank you guys so much. I am so mentally drained I don’t know sometimes how I function. I started a part time job ….had a few assessments booked with iapt but missed them due to work. My employers fire staff for taking to much time off work ….and I already do going to my daughter’s school to meet with her counselling service as she to is suffering and back and forth with court and lawyers. I am unsure How to attend each without my job finding out. I will try to c
Pull through.

Mel xoxo

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