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    • #77411
      Nothinglikeme
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      Thanks all – seeing a solicitor on (detail removed by Moderator). I will take your advice and lie and appease as much as I need to – but I won’t have him back in the house. I’ve realized he’s too dangerous.

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      Nothinglikeme
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      Hi Kip, I have a thing and have not talked about it to anyone really, my therapist says it’s not properly dissociating. I can only describe it as if my brain is cut in three vertically, from back to front, and the rear third is shifted a couple of inches to the right and my eyeballs are stuck in that bit. I think the proper term is depersonalisation, (but this is only self diagnosis) which is a form of dissociation. It’s very unsettling. But it is normal apparently in people who have had childhood trauma.

    • #76285
      Nothinglikeme
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      Hi Freetobethegreatest, if it was easy none of us would be in abusive relationships. I’m sure there are far more people who read this forum who are in one than out – and when you get out of your relationship – which you will – you will be able to share your story to bring hope to others. He is playing classic mind games, which you know and which we all know, but it still doesn’t make it easy! xx

    • #76284
      Nothinglikeme
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      Hi everyone – I made him leave – for a few days at least.

    • #76143
      Nothinglikeme
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      Thanks. What you said about it playing out as remorse rings so true Tiffany. When he beat me up he saw so many professionals to help him deal with the remorse of what he’d done to me. He even played them to the extent that one of them came to me with concerns about his suicidal thoughts. Diymum@1 it is definately a transparent agenda, funny how I’ve been doubting myself for so long, this has been going on for (detail removed by moderator)!

    • #76106
      Nothinglikeme
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      Thank you Fridges. I discovered he’s been trying to check my phone. I’ve been doing the same though and he’s been googling “signs my wife is having an affair”. So I’m a little on edge but can see exactly what he’s doing. It’s insidious, with his mental health he’s trying to make me feel he needs me and if I left he’d do something stupid. He relies on me feeling guilty. But I don’t feel guilty.

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