Thanks backtome, it is such a hard thing to do but people will help. I’ve had brilliant support from my 2 sons and without them it would have been so much harder. I will not contact him at all as I don’t want to repeat the cycle. All too many times they try and hook you back in, firstly by saying things and then threats to make you frightened if you don’t do what they want. He has tried calling a few times and I’ve had a few more emails….apparently I’m a low life! What a joke. But as each hour goes by I feel stronger xx