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    • #54115
      Primroseyellow
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      Thanks for the reply,

      I can’t leave until care arrangements for my disabled kids are sorted. I’ve been swimming and to yoga. It’s hardest at the times I need support, like when my youngest is challenging and likely to attack me and he’s either opting out or behaving unhelpfully, they are really tough; I just don’t know how long it’s going to take to sort everything out, a lot depends on funding panel decisions, the social worker makes the application, not me, and it’s a different bit of the council to disabled children’s services.

    • #53950
      Primroseyellow
      Participant

      when I spoke to my GP about my husbabds behaviour and that I’d been advised that it was abusive, he said oh well it’s difficult to tell what’s abuse and what’s depression (in my husband) I’ve spent another three years struggling on. I’ve known in myself for a long time that he just using his depression as an excuse for his behaviour. It would have helped me so much if the GP had believed me. Especially as I had been to IDAS (Independent Domestic Abuse Support) for advice as I wasn’t sure whether it was abuse or not. I still wonder know if people really believe it. I suppose they have a picture of how they think things are and not realising it’s an illusion put over by hubby. They don’t see the miserable, verbally vicious, unsupportive side of him because he puts over Mr nice guy in public.

    • #53846
      Primroseyellow
      Participant

      Thank you. I heard from two places today that my sw has been talking to them. Good to know that she’s pushing things in the background.

    • #53820
      Primroseyellow
      Participant

      Thank you KIP, I have flagged to key professionals involved and been in touch with IDAS. I have an appointment with them next week for some practical advice. Apart from the waiting I’m not too anxious about that side of things at present. It’s the emotional side that is very hard, it’s me that keeps the whole family going and keeping a calm and controlled appearance is vital for my kids sake (and mine as one has aggressive challenging behaviour) I have to keep strong through this because if it goes to pot one ir both could end up in ond of those (detail removed by Moderator) LD (learning disability) hospitals. Of course he will threaten that (Although I know he fears it as much as I do) The hardest part is how isolated I am both through the abusr and LD. The people who understand my children’s needs best are professionals and not appropriate for them to talk to me beyond a little. The SW has responsibility primarily to child but also to both myself and husband so whilst she offerred to talk wants his views too. I went to IDAS a few years ago and spent most of my session explaining the LD complications.

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