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    • #126672

      Hi Nbumblebee,

      Just wanted to say, I’ve probably not got much advice to give, but just know if you ever want an outlet, whether that be to just get things off your chest or just for a general chat, I’m more than happy to listen.

      I’ve been separated from my very controlling ex for numerous years now but due to sharing a child, he still continues to try and control me through my child which is very challenging at times. For me personally, it took a while for me to even recognise his behaviour. Something just clicked in me to say enough was enough and I begun to take each day as it comes.

      I’ve only recently posted and from many posts I’ve read, you are not alone.

      Sending you love and light x

    • #126662

      Thank you for the advice, I’ll definitely look into it xx

    • #126659

      Hi Eggshells,

      Thank you for reading my post, truly appreciated.

      We thankfully don’t have the same friendship group, anyone associated with him I got rid of a long time ago. Majority of my family don’t like him, now they can see through his bs. I’ve got to a point where social media wise I don’t bother to post a lot of things, feel as though I’ve shut down a lot, quite private if anything just because I don’t want him finding a way to use anything against me, at times I feel quite isolated and it’s becoming the norm for me which I don’t like (lockdown probably hasn’t helped).

      I currently go through third party which is a family member who has basically watched me go through it all, and is very supportive in helping which helps to take me out of the situation. Unfortunately at times he will try and get me involved, think this is a control tactic for him. Finding it difficult at the min as he’s got my child and the only way I can have contact to check in is through him which I’m very anxious about. Part of me is like don’t do it but the mother in me wants to make sure my child is ok.

      I use to attend counselling which I felt helped for a time and I felt quite on top of everything but recently, I think Ive been triggered which brought me to post, to finally reach out for a bit of support from people who have and are still going through this. People who can actually relate, as like you said outsiders don’t always understand it.
      At first I didn’t understand or recognise it was abuse, I questioned and doubted myself a lot.

      I’ve not tried any recovery programmes, wasn’t even aware there was such a thing.

      Thank you for your advice, it’s truly appreciated. From the posts I’ve seen, the ladies seem very helpful and supportive, which is really nice to see x

    • #126658

      Hi Gym mama,

      Thank you for reading my post. I really appreciate it. I can totally relate, my kids are the one constant that help me to get through the day, if anything just for them. They’ve saved me more than they realise. Thank you for your support. I hope your well x

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