prof fj lewis

[prof fj lewis]

I am self-employed so I do not get the luxury of sick pays or sick days.
I am down atm due to trouble ex is causing and it is affecting my ability to work. I am still working but have had to drop the number of customers down.
I just end up sitting around watching junk daytime TV. I just wish I had some support. School promised me a family support worker in December, but still not heard from them.
I have no relatives in the local area. Just tons of THEM meaning I have to avoid the local supermarkets.
I am getting to the stage of moving out the local area, but this will make contact very difficult for my son so I view this as a last resort.

[prof fj lewis]

My dad is also an abuser, but I have had no contact with him for a long while. He blames my disability on the reason he is rude and abusive. Being a disabled person is not a legitimate reason to abuse someone. In fact there are NO legitimate reasons to be abusive or violent, even if the victim is able bodied. It is like me going up to a black person and making racist comments and then explaining to them “it is your fault I have made racist comments as you are black”.
My ex is one horrible person and the abuse has escalated since leaving him. He now wants my new address as I moved from the old place due to his wider family turning up and shouting abuse at the door (I never let them in and told them to clear off or I was calling the police). I do not trust him to have the new address. I still live in the local area and any more harassment at my house and I am moving to (removed by moderator). He states that the actions of the wider family are “nothing to do with me”, however they must be as he must have given them my address for them to be turning up at my home.

[prof fj lewis]

Police have been next to useless. There was even an incident of hate crime where a protected characteristic of me was mocked (not going to state whether it was race religion sexuality as it may identify me) Copper told me it is not hate crime if it is said behind closed doors something which I later found out was false.
I have given up even reporting them as the police do jack

[prof fj lewis]

I am gutted today. Just gutted. Had a customer come to my house and criticise me as I do not own a desk to work at.
I do not own much furniture. I lost it all when I left. He had been very clever and insisted the tenancy was in his sole name so I had no n legal right to kick him out.
So we lost our house. Moved. Due to the in laws pitching up at our new house shouting abuse we moved when the 6 month tenancy was up.
Just moved to new house and he does not have our address.
He never worked and I did. I paid for everything in that house and left with a suitcase and a few bin bags of clothes.
So no I do not own a blooming desk the stupid stuck up woman.

[prof fj lewis]

I only stayed ad long as I did because he said if I left him he would use the courts to make sure I never saw the child again. Fortunately for me I can disprove most of what him and his relatives and friends are saying.
The abuse has actually been far worse since I have left. when I was with him I was on good terms with the relatives and now I am having to deal with them as well. If anything I would say one particular relative is far worse than he is. Just so fed up with it all.

[prof fj lewis]

I do not need court advice. I am ok with that and cannot discuss any specifics of the case anyhow.
I am just sick of the disruption this man and his family are causing me. I have never been nasty to him.
It is quite some time now since I left but these lot are showing no signs of moving on and leaving me alone.

[prof fj lewis]

I am going to try to spend some time pampering myself, but I am now broke after spending thousands on solicitors.
Serenity when you say I will never go back to how I was before is that in a bad way? Will I be left “damaged” by all of this. As it stands all I have ever known is abuse. My parents were a million times worse than him. I am doing the freedom programme to try and make sense of it. I want to know what turns someone into an abuser. It cannot be upbringing because mine was highly abusive and I make an extra effort never to upset people with my words or actions.

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