Harriet123,
I’m at the same point in my life. I left an abusive relationship last year and am talking to someone who I have been open and honest with about previous struggles, and he’s been fantastic. He’s been first and foremost a good friend, and we’ve both admitted we are attracted to each other but I don’t feel I can pursue a relationship at the moment.
I’ve still got ongoing legal issues with my ex, and I feel bad dragging someone else into this. That being said it could be 2 x years until all of this is sorted, and I don’t want to be on my own for that long. Equally the thought of having to trust anyone again scares me.
I got used to constantly treading on egg shells / being insulted / feeling on edge / everything was my fault and everything else that came with an abusive relationship. It feels wrong to not have to put up with it anymore? If you understand me? It’s strange. The thought of someone being nice to me in a relationship seems alien, and I can’t quite work it out in my head! Apologies I feel I’m blabbering on now. I wish you all the best with your recovery x
