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    • #126889
      solivagant
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      Yes. He’s not on the birth certificate so he has no legal claim to her at all unless he goes to court

    • #118727
      solivagant
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      If I were you I’d try and change support worker. Maybe say that your personality ls don’t match and see if you can get a better one. My support worker talk about herself most of the time. Assumed I was okay and then discharged me and now I’m here like an emotional wreck!! You are brave and strong enough to do it on your own but you shouldn’t have to! So take it step by step. See if you can get a different case worker and call up local solicitors (30min free advice), give a brief description and see what they suggest. Take notes of what was said and see which one you like the most and then not only will you have the knowledge to know where you stand but you will also know who a good solicitor is when/if it goes into legal proceedings

    • #118424
      solivagant
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      I don’t have anyway to get in touch with his family. We never really had a relationship with each other. But I will give women’s aid a call see what they say.

    • #118399
      solivagant
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      Can I get one against him if that’s all he’s done within the last couple of weeks and even then it was a family member that came not him?

    • #118397
      solivagant
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      I don’t think his family know he’s abusive and they currently don’t have any contact with her because (detail removed by moderator). Its all so upsetting. I partly expected him to send gift it but I really hoped he wouldn’t and he would just leave us be

    • #118388
      solivagant
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      I don’t mind his family but it makes me feel sick to the bone and really anxious that he still trying to get to her even if it is indirectly.

    • #114195
      solivagant
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      Hopefully he’s all talk…
      The advice I get given often contradicts itself so its very hard to know best thing to do is!

    • #126886
      solivagant
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      I’ve been trying to move but it’s so hard to find somewhere affordable! I hate that they know where I live its like their taunting me… everytime I start to relax him and the family are right back

    • #118681
      solivagant
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      I did consider returning them but was told that that may make it worse. I was going to sell them and but her something better but my family said that was rude so now there just sat doing nothing

    • #118679
      solivagant
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      Gp said I was overreacting and that he will be fine when I see her and I can’t get referred to a pediatrician

    • #118678
      solivagant
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      Social services won’t be involved as ice not allowed contact and GP said he will be fine and I’ve over reacted….

    • #118403
      solivagant
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      Should I tame them back to family member? I didn’t really get a chance to refuse the gifts as they were given to one of my family members. They’ve been unwrapped but they still have all the labels on.

    • #116196
      solivagant
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      Thanks for your reply, I will have a look into it.
      What is the process if I do go forward with it?

    • #116178
      solivagant
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      I’m sorry its still very traumatic for you!
      It is a strange feeling to not know and feel the shame of it. I wish I’d realised that abuse doesn’t always have to be physical before I told him I was pregnant. I wander what I would have done differently.
      I feel so stupid to not realise that this was rape and that he’d been so abusive!
      I don’t want to make it difficult for you but if you don’t mind me asking. Did you manage to get anyone to believe you??

    • #116177
      solivagant
      Participant

      Was it the same situation or…?
      If it was the same situation how long was it before you told anyone and how can you get people to believe you with no proof??

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