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Yes. He’s not on the birth certificate so he has no legal claim to her at all unless he goes to court

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If I were you I’d try and change support worker. Maybe say that your personality ls don’t match and see if you can get a better one. My support worker talk about herself most of the time. Assumed I was okay and then discharged me and now I’m here like an emotional wreck!! You are brave and strong enough to do it on your own but you shouldn’t have to! So take it step by step. See if you can get a different case worker and call up local solicitors (30min free advice), give a brief description and see what they suggest. Take notes of what was said and see which one you like the most and then not only will you have the knowledge to know where you stand but you will also know who a good solicitor is when/if it goes into legal proceedings

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I don’t have anyway to get in touch with his family. We never really had a relationship with each other. But I will give women’s aid a call see what they say.

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Can I get one against him if that’s all he’s done within the last couple of weeks and even then it was a family member that came not him?

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I don’t think his family know he’s abusive and they currently don’t have any contact with her because (detail removed by moderator). Its all so upsetting. I partly expected him to send gift it but I really hoped he wouldn’t and he would just leave us be

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I don’t mind his family but it makes me feel sick to the bone and really anxious that he still trying to get to her even if it is indirectly.

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Hopefully he’s all talk…
The advice I get given often contradicts itself so its very hard to know best thing to do is!

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I’ve been trying to move but it’s so hard to find somewhere affordable! I hate that they know where I live its like their taunting me… everytime I start to relax him and the family are right back

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I did consider returning them but was told that that may make it worse. I was going to sell them and but her something better but my family said that was rude so now there just sat doing nothing

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Gp said I was overreacting and that he will be fine when I see her and I can’t get referred to a pediatrician

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Social services won’t be involved as ice not allowed contact and GP said he will be fine and I’ve over reacted….

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Should I tame them back to family member? I didn’t really get a chance to refuse the gifts as they were given to one of my family members. They’ve been unwrapped but they still have all the labels on.

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Thanks for your reply, I will have a look into it.
What is the process if I do go forward with it?

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I’m sorry its still very traumatic for you!
It is a strange feeling to not know and feel the shame of it. I wish I’d realised that abuse doesn’t always have to be physical before I told him I was pregnant. I wander what I would have done differently.
I feel so stupid to not realise that this was rape and that he’d been so abusive!
I don’t want to make it difficult for you but if you don’t mind me asking. Did you manage to get anyone to believe you??

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Was it the same situation or…?
If it was the same situation how long was it before you told anyone and how can you get people to believe you with no proof??

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