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    • #111415
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      Hi 123Cali, I completely understand you’re situation mine has also threatened to get 50 if I leave. But he never wants to take care of him, even spanked when he was smaller, and the drivinis just as bad he had been caught previously with us in the car and crush at school. So I stayed to protect him too called in nannies to stay with if I cannot be there just to ensure he is safe. Now my boy is much bigger and says he wants to protect his little sus from his bad dad. And started calling him on his name. I have also been advised about an occupation order so waiting to speak to a lawyer now. Sadly my son son research the word spanking on his computer that ex told me he had child lock on and came across some not so good scenes…. I took pictures of this but had affected my son. And I am starting counselling soon, because he really can’t wait to get rid of his Dad, I promise to never leave him alone with his dad again but worried he gets sone custody and my son will be devasted… So hence I am dragging, but will post back based on advice from lawyer if that might help you decide.

    • #111385
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      I am soooo sorry for the long text but needed to get things of my chest and start planning thinking clearly again… Really would appreciate your advice and positive thoughts.

    • #111382
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      I am soooo sorry for the long text but needed to get things of my chest and start planning thinking clearly again… Really would appreciate your advice.

    • #107869
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      Sorry meant Stepchange, hugs.

    • #107867
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      Thanks lifebegins for the details you shared. I wish you all the best for the future, regarding finances call a free debt charity like Step Cgange for advice on how to proceed etc, you might even be eligible for a mortgage break just to get you back on track.

    • #107860
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      Chatham, well done for stepping out. Your husband will eventually slop up you can’t pretend to be nice 24/7. You just keep telling yourself, how amazing you are and keep exercising it’s good for the mind and body.

    • #107856
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      Thanks for asking such an important question, I n about the kids, my eldest has asked me to leave his Dad after recognising his abusive patterns and duplicate personality. I have been strong and resilient and been helping my son to deal and identity his behaviour mine has no interest in the kids apart from when we have visitors to act up. My eldest is so brokenhearted because his Dad is game computer addict, he hacked into all my stuff for years, forged my signature etc. I have kept record. But worried about contact for kids, he will also start a job as (detail removed by Moderator) can you believe he has put so much lies on his application cannot believe he will manipulating other (detail removed by Moderator). Sorry, maybe too many questions?

    • #111487
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      Many thanks HelpHelp, thanks for the support. I had a good meal (detail removed by moderator), got all dressed up and as usual took my for so e footie out… Unfortunately we ..(detail removed by moderator) we left in a hurry. Ex used thus as a way to worm himself back into speaking to us/me. Got my armour coat on…. I am feeling better, he is acting all supa nice… But I am on guard I know he is up to something… Even string along to (detail removed by moderator) with us today. Yep.. Got a friend request from his friend on (detail removed by moderator) to invite us for anniversary (detail removed by moderator)…. He mentions that (detail removed by moderator)….. (I am thinking really) we are separated why holiday together…(thankfully can use covid as excuse) Then he goes to speak to (detail removed by moderator)…. Oh dear Mr Nice guy… My emails are full do going to start blogging… To keep track I think…he helps me with the shopping delivered…. He then casually says (detail removed by moderator)… Just ignored it and left the room pretending not hear….(blocked him since (detail removed by moderator)…. Found a tweet tonight from him saying making a joke about (detail removed by moderator)… (took a screenshot)… I have spent (detail removed by moderator) through old emails highlighting contradictions… Lies…, there is so much..He played games till (detail removed by moderator) this morning… He has now invited me for dinner at a restaurant (gonna use work as an excuse while playing nice) I need my hard drive all the pictures back so need to play nice) gonna sleep now and hope to hear from lawyer later. Fingers cross for all those you amazing women… Remember to exercise and get fresh air help everyone…

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