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    • #134287
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      it tough but esp in. the middleof the night….i hope thAt some practical help is just around the corner I bet this is the low point and it’s onwards and upwards from here… I really hope so… if I get anything useful from from my doctor I’ll share it with you you… for now just let you know I’m thinking of you….and im just so phsically wrecjed i cant add much now

    • #134286
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      im struggling pyscically…ifs not fun but better tban the mental abuse ive just escaped!😃
      i wa perimeopausal 5 years before domestic abuse became extreme enough to force me to escape. Herbal remedies work for me at that point I’m having a blood test now no so we’ll know whether it’s menopause or exhaustion and trauma I don’t know no but thankfully my doctor’s awesome so I should get to the bottom of it at the moment I’m just so incredibly physically weak and dizzy whether that’s iron deficiency cause of heavy periods or just a combination of sleep deprivation and heavy period I don’t know we have so much to cope with us women don’t we but we are very strong take care everyone

    • #134284
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      Just thinking of you take care

    • #134283
      Still scared
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      I agree women’s Aid are the best the help you in difficult situations and give you options especially where you can’t see any I know from experience I hope it works out well for you I have confidence it will take care are be careful woman’s advise you how to be careful

    • #134282
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      please dont underestimate your mental strength just surviving means you’re awesome mind are brilliant just in terms of understanding some of the legal issues around mental health and abuse I recommend them whether you have or don’t have a mental health condition caused by family and I get how interlinked mental health and abuse are trust me but I realise I’m not mentally ill whatever mentally ill means so much stigma and so easy to manipulate people because of it take care of yourself you’re precious

    • #134280
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      congratulations…confidence can only grow now…up good and strong where it deserved to be…all the best

    • #134279
      Still scared
      Participant

      Me too always have: always will ;…so normal enjoy they don’t judge ..or lie.. or cheat or take the mickey of Us.. we owe them so much will

    • #134278
      Still scared
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      Just want to share a couple of practical tips from victim support who I spoke to unspecified unspecified most are are kind of reminding yourself about boundaries so actually just I made quite a pretty pretty framed picture handwritten to myself just saying I’m in control and I choose when to speak to not physically see x x x x x person unnamed also just for me personally to have a note on the door to see who it is is before open door are the other things basically people can find out by talking directly to victim support their bit to specific to their to write them on here take care of everyone lots of love to you all PS SB careful with key in the lock there’s a gadget that removes keys from letter boxes if you’re living on your own and frightened of your abuser who’s not living with you anymore so instead keep key near enough to escape in a fire but not in the door lock

    • #134277
      Still scared
      Participant

      ive learned something very interesting. I can spot red flags myself and especially people taking advantage of my current vulnerability I don’t have words for them well I do but I won’t print them m I’ve realised the series of emails everyone is passive aggressive pretending to care eir.ie available 24/7 and yet not actually do a single thing despite me being very physically ill at the moment the emails are very critical of me me and contradictory i.e. you’re a wonderful person I’m blocking them I’m getting in touch with people who actually care… I feel better for my in myself for realising realising take care of everyone lots of love

    • #133956
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      omg…..i so get that…im x years old and but its almost like ive created an imagineaty friend to talk to -to tell them everytbing that has happened to me ( its based on a real person; but they are just someone who has heled me in a working situation….) anyway hope this makes everyone laugh….i had a nightmare the other night(ok not normal first line of a joke) anyway it was about my abusor getting in my house but as i ran up the road i met Boris (as prime minister) he laughed at first them called the police for me….i woke up at this point….funny but not funny…

      this space is a good place to vent thankyou…

      • #133957
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        im taking baby steps too…but we now have people to hold on to…

    • #133925
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      Dear desr aliendoh.

      It sound so familiar….with a few differences in ‘methods used to inflict as much hurt as possible. I hope we can support each other….weve survived the hardest part is over…lots of love…

    • #133955
      Still scared
      Participant

      i am still scared for my safety. after escaping ….cant go into details
      …. cos would be dangerious….but its still worth it….i have hope for a happy future…no longer planning how to leave this world….i keep seeing good things around me that id never noticed in past….like the leaves changing colour…pleasure in the small and big things….love to everyone

    • #133928
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      Participant

      Thinking of you…it will be worth it stay safe and strong….and i agree that keep in touch with wadvice line when safe to do so….they saved me from trrrible end to a wasted life… they are going in my will…im lucky to be able to write one….

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