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Hi Trapped, you can request for a transfer from your support worker at the refuge. I’ve just recently did a transfer because the refuge area where I was, I felt I will not have no support since I did not have any family or friends there. In the end I ended up going online & called the DV support in the area where I wanted to move & explained to them that I would like to move to their care because I will have more support there & I passed in their deatails to the refuge support workers where I was before & as luck was in my side. One of their houses was going to be free in two weeks time. Nice part it’s a house, just me & the kids.

The former refuge workers tried to help but in the end, I found myself this refuge by going online & doing some bit of google work. I hope you get all the help & everything get sorted out xx

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Hi Ayanna, you are so write! The council has emailed back stating that my band won’t change & asking me if have I looked into private renting & that their decision is firmly because I have no connection to the area I wanted to move to. I’m now trying to do some research on how housing works. Thanks for the response x

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Enafadov, I was once like you fearing that he would take the kids from me but I started talking & seeking help & finally being in a refuge. I realised how weak of a man he was.all he’s crazy tactics were just nothing.Also don’t wait for the kids to grow because that’s when they become emotionally stressed by the whole situation. My young ones have settled better than the big ones here in the refuge. I hope you find courage to leave. Without me worrying about house, I must say it has been nice not walking on eggshells trying to figure out someone’s mood for the day & me & the kids have been driving all over the place visiting friends, eating what we want, watching movies & going to the park. This is just giving me a glimpse of what our future lives will be like. All the best & know we are all cheering for you to find your happiness xx

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Thanks FF & SRF, unfortunately the council has emailed back stating that because I have no connection to the area they will not give us priority. I’m so stressed, my emotions are all over the place. When I left my home, I thought there would be so much help but I guess in reality it’s all so different. I mean how can they give us the last banding.

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Hi Brokenputty, thanks for words of encouragement but to be honest I’m feeling so low & lack of support from my key worker is just disheartening. I also call the council where I want to & asked why I have been awarded this band, especially since that I’m in a refuge. I was then told “being in a refuge does not necessarily give you priority banding”. I was then told my application my key worker did was for rehousing & not homelessness. Anyone experienced this?

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Oh well, I called the council asking why I was awarded this band & I was told that my application was not for homelessness but rather for rehousing😳. I then told them that I’m homeless because I’m in a refuge but I was then told that being in a refuge doesn’t mean they’ll give me priority & also that I have no connection 😢. It doesn’t look like the council is willing to help me. I really don’t know what to do now.

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Thanks ladies for your response. I’ll call the council tomorrow & see what they say. I’m sad really & still think she didn’t put enough information. It’s a shame all she wants is for me to move in this area but all I want is for me & the kids to be where we can have support.

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Hi Enafadov, thanks for asking of me. I’m still in a refuge & the kids have settled very well. However, I’m in limbo when it comes to housing. I feel I’m not being listened to. I’m just beginning to regret leaving.

Starryeyed thanks even though it may have took long to acknowledge your support. I appreciate you all but didn’t know that it would be this way

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Thanks KIP, I’ve decided to deactivate my FB account & my babies are all young so there’s no other social media accounts to worry about. So far everything is going ok & sorting out school for them.

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Thank you all for your supportive words. I kept myself busy today trying to sort the kids clothes & make this place as homely as possible. It’s a self contained unit which makes all the difference.

She-ra I hope you find strength to leave. As have already closed my case because I removed my babies from the horrible situation.

Love of no contact I’m sorry you & your babies had to endure for that long but at the end you finally did it. Xx

I appreciate you all for taking your time to respond as it’s still early days and I’m so worried because I don’t know what he’s next move will be regarding the kids but so far I have stayed no contact & he has sent some of his friends to contact me through FB which I have decided to deactivate for now.

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Maddog thank you. Its amazing how much lies can come out from their mouths

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I went to the police station to do my statement & I must say it felt like weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I have been carrying a lot for a very long time, it felt good to off load everything. Police are trying to help me find a refuge & they have also advised me to go to housing too. They also told me SS will be notified so they can also help me. Honestly, im shaking, thinking too much & mind is all over the place at the moment. Im just about to have my first meal for the day because im breastfeeding but not really hungry. I wish I could have a sign telling me its all gonna be ok.

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Thanks Anabela, my husband is also making out he’s not bothered by police as he always say i should call them. But lately seems to be plotting against me.

Ayanna thanks too, i didnt know i could go to their office. ill try sorting that after meeting with the police. i really didnt want it to be like this but my husband has been getting away with maltreating me for a long time. i just want my kids to grow in a good environment where they can be kids that they are.

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Oh forgot to say that he took the satelite TV remotes too. Its really hard living in these conditions but as much as im scared to leave. Im beginning to detach myself from him and seeing for who he is. Its truly helping me and thank you so much ladies xxx

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Godchild, thank God my neighbours are very nice and have given me their internet password to connect to them. They know how he’s like and have also urged me to seek help. My neighbour even said sid he’s profession, he doesnt deserve it as he can’t treat me like this and get away with it. At the moment im just trying to clear this guilt about spoiling his career but yet again, i dont deserve to be treated like this. He’s made his choice to do these things and i just have to walk away for the sake of kids and i.

Ayanna, i wouldn’t mind going to a refuge but its just to get the courage to do it. Although the aftermath, is also what im dreading as he will paint me a bad picture as he likes to say im irresponsible and i will never take his kids but i know this is not true.

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