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Thank you for the replies, I will look into an occupation order.

I do need to just tell him somehow, he’s not violent but he’s emotionally abusive and just shouts over anything I say that he doesn’t agree with. He’s basically only here because he can’t afford to live without me. But he is constantly snapping and shouting at everything that me and the children do when he’s having his time, which is all the time he’s home. He’s trying to control when I can have access to a vehicle but in a very manipulative way so to the outside it looks as though he is being caring. To the outside world he looks like he’s amazing but behind closed doors he’s not. He cycles from being awful to being nice so I feel like I’m going insane, but I’ve now read about the cycle of abuse and his behaviour follows this.

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Thank you Lisa, that’s great I will look into those and thank you for helping me to clarify my situation. I think I’ve known for a while it’s abuse but as you say it’s difficult to realise when you are in the situation and trying to hold things together

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Thank you for the replies,
As bananaboat has mentioned silent treatment I hadn’t added that but that is a regular occurrence when I’m told I’ve done something wrong or something is my fault.

The finances I still ensure all bills were paid but he now has control of his own bank, I used to have permission to log into his bank and transfer what was needed for bills, he no longer allows me to do that as he said he would transfer the money to me himself. He never transfers anywhere near what I’ve told him is needed and that’s if he transfers at all. Which then means all of my wages has to go to the bills account so they don’t bounce. It leaves me reliant on him for food and fuel money but he doesn’t have any left after a week of his monthly pay.

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Thank you, it is really hard knowing I can’t just leave. Especially when I know if it wasn’t my house I would be able to leave even if it meant fleeing.

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Thank you, I will definitely look at those

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That’s amazing news that’s he’s left today, well done I just need to conjure that same courage you had

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