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    • #110682
      weeblewob
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      oh hun I feel you my ex is exactly the same everything is about him and his health, how he feels and what he needs. never about how and what he does to others. once I asked him how he thinks his son feels when he doesn’t pick him up from school because he decides that drinking is more important and he can never answer the question cos its all about u don’t understand my problems etc

      he tells me I need to learn about alcholics yet I will never understand how anyone can put a cider before there child.

      make a stand us women need to take back control and have the power. we are strong enough and we need to show them that they do not control us anymore.

      I am trying to erase the scars and think positive about my situation I took a stand and got a non molestration order done all by myself issued without him knowing, I warned and warned him and he never listened and I finally did it and I feel great and amazing and all the things of being scared and worried everytime my phone went off has all gone and now I can focus on mending all the emotional abuse he subjected me to and put my time into me for once

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      weeblewob
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      thanks I really would love to see his face when we gets court letter. I know for a fact he cant afford a lawyer and he wouldn’t be able to represent himself in a court because he isn’t capable of staying calm. I just so scared and nervous and never felt so worried but at the same time I feel like laughing and glad that I have done this. Just court is a scary thing to have to do.

      Im so scared that my son with end up just like him and id hate that my son is so smart and clever and I know he has got the potential to make such a good life for himself and id hate his dad to turn him in to him.

      I just need to get pass the way I still feel. do u ever just feel like such a twat for letting a pathetic person make u feel so inhuman.

    • #106191
      weeblewob
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      since (detail removed by moderator) I have managed to block him, get myself a solicitor. I reported the incident and my solicitor is finalising my legal aid application to go for a non molistration order, prohibited steps order and a residency order. all to protect me and my son from any further damage.

      Honestly I don’t know how my husband puts up with me sometimes. The negativity I show when he pays me a compliment or says nice things to me. All the throughts that are drilled in to my head make me be a right dick sometimes.

      im not scared or worried about my hubby because I know he loves me so much and everything about me. He took me on with my 2 kids and all my bagguage but my inner demons of worthlessness over take me sometimes. Its so hard to talk to me that really don’t understand what its like to have experienced the stuff that I have. They just don’t get it and what it does to you.

      I feel like im suffication at times. I look at pictures and wonder what that confident, funny, crazy women that I used to be has gone. I mean I am still like that but at times I just don’t see it.

       

       

    • #106154
      weeblewob
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      braelynn what you have just said is exactly how I feel. I have tried counselling but it has never worked for me. I was subject to emotional and physical abuse, But the emotional abuse has had a much bigger effect on me. my ex used to call me so many things, he would torture me with the vile words that it got to the point where I throught I was better of dead than I was alive. we have a child together and I had a child from a previous partner. he would call me a bad mum, I was fat and disgusting(told me this (detail removed by moderator) after I gave birth to our child), no one wants me nor ever will. no one would miss me if I was dead, the list goes on he would sit on the end of the bed at night while I was trying to sleep (detail removed by moderator) the mattress up saying these vile things over and over again. he would often throw me off the mattress. he would do it for hours on end. I fell like its constantly inside me the doubts I have about myself all drilled in because of him. I feel like my old same is still there but at times I start to think what would my new partner want me look at me in disgusting etc and I hate it. the other day my ex called me because I stopped him seeing our son (detail removed by moderator) ago because he has a massive problem with alcohol so I had to stop contact. he then decided to call our son out the blue pissed out of his face my son didn’t answer he came and told me. the next thing my ex was on the phone to me which I answer and told him that it as agreed he didn’t call our son and that he is drunk and shouldn’t be calling. the next thing the nasty disgusting vile words came out his mouth to me againa dn threathening to kill me ect and everything just comes flowing back all the self doubt etc its horrible.

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