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    • #142925
      Weemebreeze
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      Hi Orchid7,

      I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through. The lack of support from those closest to you must be so difficult to process. I can relate so much to what you’ve written – regrettably I didn’t go to the police and now (detail removed by Moderator) down the line he’s “got away with it”, moved on and I’m left still trying to process. We do what we think was right at the time though so please don’t be hard on yourself. I found writing a journal really helped me process some of my anger – getting all my thoughts out onto paper. I also found walking helped to clear my head – 10k steps a day. Good luck and hope things get a bit easier soon x

    • #141054
      Weemebreeze
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      I hope today was a better day ❤️ Thinking of you and everyone else who found yesterday difficult x

    • #141053
      Weemebreeze
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      Hi Pinkvelvet,

      I can relate to this so much. a short while after I left, I reached out to him to ask for his help with closure because I was struggling, really struggling. Did he listen to me, give me all the explanations and answers I needed and apologise? No. Instead, he texted to say that he couldn’t help me and I should stop trying to have everything on my terms, I could almost picture his smirking face as he sent it. I cried solid for weeks. It was utter torture the lack of answers and closure . More questions than answers. I felt like I was left paralysed in a state of torture and confusion while meanwhile he was off living his life with clearly no regard for my well-being. I listened to the best advise on here and went no contact. I wrote a diary most nights to get the thoughts out . Bit by bit and with time, I can honestly say it gets easier. You get to a point where you accept you’ll not get the closure you want but you start to look forward and see a life filled with opportunity and hope and you start to put the relationship in the past. It’s like stopping a bad movie half way through – sometimes we know enough to not bother watching till the end. Hang in there, you’re doing amazingly well and I can assure you it gets easier x

    • #138271
      Weemebreeze
      Participant

      Hi The Duchess

      This happened to me – he had access to my WhatsApp’s and emails and I had no idea. I felt completely and utterly violated, sick to the stomach. His car had a tracker via an app (detail removed by moderator) and he used to encourage me to take it rather than my own car – I realised after that it was to track me. You’re doing the right thing and i definitely recommend the re-set to factory settings plus all of the additional security steps such two step verification on WhatsApp. Also go to your iCloud if you’re apple, and check what devices registered. Change all your passwords.

      Hope you’re ok – it’s such a horrible thing to happen. 💕

    • #138038
      Weemebreeze
      Participant

      Lovely to hear! Thanks for sharing – I needed to hear this today. 💕

    • #137894
      Weemebreeze
      Participant

      So true!! ❤️

    • #137823
      Weemebreeze
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      ❤️ this post

    • #137686
      Weemebreeze
      Participant

      Hi, I can relate to this so much – I’ve really struggled these past few weeks, I just seem to be sinking lower with every day even though I left a while ago. Work is extremely stressful for me too but I need the money so feel really tied. I think we just need to take one day at a time and remind ourselves that this will pass with time. I really hope you feel better soon! Everyone says it’s a rollercoaster so it’s bound to pick up soon. All the best and sending a hug ❤️

    • #137494
      Weemebreeze
      Participant

      ❤️ this post. All of the above plus eating as much cheese and biscuits as I want! X

    • #137183
      Weemebreeze
      Participant

      Trust your gut 💕

    • #137167
      Weemebreeze
      Participant

      Totally agree – and there’s the smirking. No sincere breakdown, tears, honesty, full reveal etc …. Smirking when confronted. X

    • #137127
      Weemebreeze
      Participant

      I’m sorry to say it was a threat and he’s fully aware of what he’s doing. My ex threatened me with similar and a few weeks later I was violently attacked. Please make sure you’re safe ❤️

    • #137056
      Weemebreeze
      Participant

      Hi Shoop, I’m so sorry to read this – that’s absolutely awful. Are you ok? Have you reported him to the police? Are you somewhere safe? Sending you a hug – that’s a horrendous thing to go through. I know it’s extremely difficult but do keep in your mind that he’s chosen to behave that way – it’s 100% not your fault, you’ve done nothing wrong and don’t deserve to be treated that way. His behaviour is completely unacceptable . The tears will be crocodile tears – mine did the same, turned them on and off like a tap. I’d recommend phoning women’s aid for some support – they were a huge help to me after I was assaulted. Let us know you’re ok. 💕

    • #139649
      Weemebreeze
      Participant

      Hi Bananaboat

      Thank you so much for this – it’s extremely helpful! And thank you for the good wishes. ❤️

    • #139648
      Weemebreeze
      Participant

      Thanks very much for the lovely message, I really appreciate it and feeling a bit better about the situation today. Thanks again

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