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    • 12th July 2020 at 12:08 am #109662
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      It’s not helped by the fact that statistics of abuse on men include these false accusations by abusers. This scews the figures to make it look more common than it is so they are then believed. It’s sick!

    • 16th March 2020 at 11:05 pm #99392
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      Thanks hun. I know you’re right. The problem is that press conference was woolly so i think he’ll argue it. He fought tooth and nail for access and only got it to the youngest due to abuse of our eldest but the court and cafcass really screwed up and left us very exposed to his crap. He will be scheming somewhere right now.

    • 26th February 2020 at 11:40 am #98459
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      Thanks Fizzylem. Such brilliant advice. I will definitely keep this for guidance as we move forward. My problem is my son really only opens up to me and the court don’t believe me but your ideas are great and give me a way through it all x

    • 22nd February 2020 at 3:50 pm #98239
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      Thanks. Oh fizzylem I really hope you get a better result. The court experience was a nightmare for me. My only advice is stick to your guns and don’t be forced into compromises too early in the case xxx

    • 21st February 2020 at 10:39 pm #98209
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      And I’ve not heard from my son again. he stops him using his phone when he’s there. I feel sick

    • 21st February 2020 at 8:26 am #98187
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      I think you’re instinct to get far away is right hun. You’re not abusive for protecting yourself from his manipulation. Your head it’s spinning because you’re still in a relationship with him really. This dynamic he’s engineered is unhealthy and very risky for you. Go far away. If you really think contact is right for your child’s then do it through a contact centre so you don’t see him but i think you need advice as to whether that’s the way to go. Speak to WA and your gp and see what advice they give based on your history with this man but my gut says if you’re being offered a place far away its because someone thinks that’s best for you x

    • 6th February 2020 at 7:38 pm #97248
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      Can you tell him you were bleeding and saw a doctor whilst he was at work. You could say they aren’t worried but said no sex until you’ve had a scan? I’m so sorry you are dealing with all of this xx

    • 27th January 2020 at 4:53 pm #96593
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      Oh KIP, I think we were with the same man! Rainbowcloud, please don’t blame yourself x

    • 24th January 2020 at 11:26 am #96361
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      Thinking of you x

    • 23rd January 2020 at 8:48 pm #96319
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      Have you been yet? How did it go hun?

    • 23rd January 2020 at 5:34 am #96265
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      Thank you Peacethroughhealing. I know i should count my blessings but with the way everything has been handled i know the abuse is about to ramp up too as they’ve basically told him he’s perfect. Love and strength to you xxx

    • 16th January 2020 at 8:32 pm #95816
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      Will pm you x

    • 29th December 2019 at 5:19 pm #94434
      Whosthatgirl
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      Tiffany is spot on. it all sounds very familiar. Please stop questioning yourself as its part of a cycle they trap you in to gain more and more control. He will ramp up the accusations until you end up apologising and giving in to him in some way. Be strong xx

    • 29th December 2019 at 5:13 pm #94433
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      Oh i remember that one. Mine would vacuum when he knew i had done it. He would point to a crumb one of the kids had just dropped and tell me it needed doing again. Made me so unhappy. Now I’m on the other side I realise how constantly stressed I was but tonight, (detail removed by moderator) on, i find I’m cooking a meal he would have approved of but neither the kids or I really want! I stayed too long and its taking a long time to recover. Find a way out so you can relax if possible xx

    • 29th December 2019 at 5:06 pm #94432
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      Thanks xx

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