Living with the enemy

Hes been back several weeks now and after promises of things being better and cutting down his drinking things have pretty much gone back to normal. If I go anywhere I get accused of seeing another man, yet he says its a joke, gets offended when I dont like it. I took the kids for a meal. He made a comment about me spending his money while hes at work. This upset me, and again he got offended cos I was upset by it. Beer cans left all over. I tidy up and he just leaves mess saying it’s my job to clean up cos he works. I recently had to hide my daughter’s new uniform because every Time I spend money on my kids to a previous relationship he says, (detail removed by moderator). I hate this life and I’m still finding my inner strength to get him to leave once and for all. I am literally living with an enemy. I can’t say owt cos he makes it out to be me. He had a drink problem before I met him but his mum has a hate for me now and blames me for him needing to drink. Even though his ex said the same things I am and even warned me. I describe him as a n********t but I’m sure hes much more. Need out asap