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      Chihiro
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      Hey guys,

      I left my abusive relationship about (detail removed by Moderator) ago, and I have only just in the past couple of months began to truly recognise, look at and process everything that happened to me, and begin the healing process. I am talking over FaceTime with a therapist once a week, but recently feel like I have hit a bit of a wall.

      She has been wonderful in helping me to open up and talk or even think about what I went through. She has also been wonderful in helping me to truly believe that what happened to me was not my fault, and in giving me coping mechanisms to ease my anxiety and depression. In the past couple of weeks, I have found myself having less and less to say. I feel like I want to DO something about it, not just talk about it, like I want specific exercises, or specific books or things to go away and think about or work on. I will ask her “ok so now I know that my brain works like this, what can I do about it?” or “how can I fix it?” and she can’t give me any answers. I know that really recognising the truth of what happened in the relationship and talking about what happened is the biggest part of the healing process, but I feel like to have clarity I need to do more. Am I expecting too much from my therapist, or am I pushing too hard to recovery? Should I look into CBT therapy or something like that?

      I would love to know your experiences with therapy, particularly in relation to PTSD, anxiety and depression. What helped, what did you learn along the way.

      Thanks <3

    • #121317
      KIP.
      Participant

      Compare her experience and qualifications with other therapists. She should be trained in trauma. PTSD. EMDR. CBT. Domestic Abuse and have experience of all. If you feel you’re not getting enough out of a session then perhaps reduce the sessions to fortnightly or monthly where you can cover what you’ve struggled with during that time. Ive heard great things about EMDR for trauma and I’ve had great success with it too.

    • #121318
      KIP.
      Participant

      Have a look at the NHS website for PTSD

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