I am an abuse survivor.
Since then I notice abusive behaviour in others, that maybe I never would have before.
I haven’t heard from my sibling or spouse for years.
My sibling and spouse has really upset me. The spouse has been weird with me before. She sent me a very ugly picture that she said looked like my dear departed Dad. Just out of the blue.
I replied very severely.
Since then I learn from my sibling that this was a perfectly lovely thing to do, and I am a hideous person for having the temerity to say what she did is mad and wicked.
It is gaslighting
It has affected me and triggered me.
I’ve actually blocked my sibling and spouse.
I am horrified.
My Dad was a really great person. I remember him with huge love. I don’t like his memory despoiled.
I did gibe her a huge rollicking, but you just can’t insult people’s departed parents, can you? Am I going mad?