Living together he used to say it were what he wanted but just kept saying different things like…he will live with me then I could live with him and get my name on the tenancy then I needed to sort my youngest son out who’s a life shortening condition basically put him somewhere permanent to live but yet he could have his son coming round then it didn’t matter if we didn’t live together…is this mind games??? Xx
It sounds like a red flag, especially around commitment. Another red flag for me are the kids and treating them so differently as if his is more important but that’s just my view on the limited info here