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    • #144403
      Mellow
      Blocked

      So I ended it but now he saying he did I’m finding it peculiar i didn’t know how bad a situation I was in and let him walk all over me I’ve got a feeling he is now telling everyone that he has ended it .there were no apologies or remorse for what he’d done and I couldn’t stand for it I got advice from people and many said that what he’s done is not right I had to get confirmation to find that it wasn’t me if I kept it in my head alone the relationship might still be going and more toxic than ever I’m glad I reached out because it has been going on a long time I’ve just been more oblivious or not oblivious and accepted it we are not door mats it went on too long children together to anyone out there reading don’t let it get to far don’t have children don’t bring them in the mix leave and find someone worthy there’s so many people out there so I’ve now recognised they will treat you right we can’t dedicate to this one person when there’s so much real love out there to be given

    • #144412
      Newgirl
      Participant

      Well done lovely x let him say what he wants you know the truth sweetie x nobody should have to go through this but we by the time we realise and accept we are stuck may I ask how did you find your voice to end it? That’s where I am at the moment x thank you

    • #144419
      Hereforhelp
      Participant

      Hi Mellow, crazy how non of these men take responsibility, accountability for any of their actions.. some abusers will claim to own their s**t but they are lying to keep us there with them back under their control… how are you today? ❤ HFH

    • #144430
      RedStrawberry
      Participant

      I agree with heretohelp. My ex never took any responsibility for his actions. He’d punch walls, throw things, call me vile names but it was all my fault, HE didn’t have an anger problem. He’d then give me the silent treatment for days with no obvious reason and I was expected to know what I had supposidly done. And never any apology for anything in the whole of our relationship. Sending hugs

    • #144443
      Anonymous
      Inactive

      Ego control and projection mellow. It can’t possibly be them can it? (Yes it most certainly and defiantly can)so it has to be somebody else’s anybody else’s fault 🌷🌾🌷

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