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Legal aid finally got accepted after months.
Managed to get the police to enforce 0 contact with ex and the kids.
Getting a security camera put up.
I’ve finally told a pastural lead at the kids school what is going on and they are keeping an eye on the kids.
I hadn’t heard anything from the Domestic abuse officer for months, I text her the other day to push again for counselling for the kids.
She booked a telephone call with me.
I’ve got to grips with DV, why he does the things he does, why I feel the way I feel.
Court date will be in the near future and I know now I will be represented.
It’s still a long road to go, but I can see the other side now. -
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Well done you, In my experience, as time goes by you chip away it. It doesn’t happen overnight but turn around and a few months have gone by, you realise how you’ve moved forward and got stronger. Outside help seems to come and go, but you’ve kept the focus and you’ve kept strong. It’s not easy but it’s easier than being with the abuser, right?
Go you! The person whose standing up to the abuser, the person who is fighting for their kids, the person who is fighting for justice, and above all survival. Go you @Footballfan1, your amazing xx
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Thanks for your replies Hope22 and Strongenough.
It’s been challenging but the kids are happier, which is the main thing.
I’m grateful to have what I have and I’m going to b****y fight for it!
I was still being to nice to him, letting him have his own way on certain things.
He then pushed me over my limit and I got really mad.
I’ve gone all out since, to get everything I need to support myself and the kids.
He told the kids the house is his house, not mine.
Not true.
I pay the mortgage and put down thousands more deposit than him.
I’m still in it with the kids, he’s just angry that I managed to get him out and kept him out.
He tried the nice approach, and I almost fell for it but I had my doubts.
Luckily, he couldn’t keep the nice pretence up for long and showed his true colours.
Keep fighting guys, it’s a long slog but it pays off.
Stay strong and if a bad day happens, just know there will be plenty of good days owed to you, but you also have to work for the good days x*x -
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Thanks Hereforhelp.
Good luck with your legal process.
I’m preparing myself for an escalation that he told my son about.
I overheard him say it to him before the 0 contact, and he doesn’t know I know his plan.
As well as saying the house is his, he’s been saying to me everything in it is his, the kids are his.
Well what exactly does he think is mine?
Nothing.
So I didn’t even give birth to the kids.
It’s delusional.
He didn’t have to work much for a few years because I was the main earner and paid for everything.
I’ve also told his family what he has done over the years.
I had kept silent but he has been spreading lies about me so I put them right in one big rant and now I’m happy I don’t need to speak to them again.
I don’t need them and I told them by taking his side, they are taking his side over the children.
I said I’m not their family, I’m not bothered, but the children are their family so that is wrong.
I feel like I said what I needed to say and case closed.
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