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Is It abuse
Been separated nearly (detail removed by Moderator) months have gone no contact but hard as we share children not that he asks for them! But if I don’t answer am the worse mum in the world am keeping his kids away from him all that talk!! So the past few weeks he’s being telling me he’s sleeping with all different people now today one of them (detail removed by Moderator) and gets her hair done (detail removed by Moderator) believe it or not!!!! I did say what’s the secret why you’d keeping it quiet? He’s threatening to send me pictures (detail removed by Moderator) he’s had me crying all day and I mean all day long stupidity I had sex with him (detail removed by Moderator) ago I asked him like a d******d to stop being nasty to me but I think he gets off on treating me like s**t he knows I still love him well I think I do because it hurts so bad when he says all this to me he blames me for the breakdown off the relationship even tho there’s been physical abuse i never in my life knew of any man to speak to a woman the way he does me it’s inhumane how anyone can do that to someone they only cared about few months ago the things he says and how he makes me feel is undesirable I am not saying I am a angel I can shout back and say stuff but he doesn’t cry he laughs at me even when am shaking an crying he laughs and still shouts out me putting his (detail removed by Moderator) saying (detail removed by Moderator) and going to throw things at me have me cowing from him I’ve sent messages to someone on fb because am that paroind it’s someone close to me he’s sleeping with my hearts literally broke in two I just don’t understand how anyone can be like this even of things did get hard I don’t know if it’s abusive I know I’ve asked before but am really struggling bad
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Oh sweetheart, my heart breaks for you.. your partner is very abusive… when we love someone and that someone is sad, crying it is our natural instinct to comfort them.. your partner caused you the upset and then ridiculed your pain (emotional abuse), throwing things at you and saying (detail removed by Moderator) is a way to control you through fear and he may well be warning you of what is to come?
I don’t want to overwhelm you I am pointing out just a little of the abuse you have suffered and I am so sorry he is treating you this way and I am sorry to say that he will not change, he will get worse.
Maybe read some stories on here, it can help you to understand the abuse you are going through as you will see so many similarities.
When you can maybe ring Womans Aid so that you have someone to support you?
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I really feel for you Jellytot, keep reading and posting on here. It’s so hard when we love them, it’s so hard to break that bond. Do you have any friends or family you can reach out to for support? He definitely is abusive from what you have said. They are so good at messing us around and messing with our heads. Try and get some distance from him, don’t feel that you have to respond to his messages straight away. Focus on yourself and your kids. Have you reached out to your local Women’s Aid if the National Domestic Abusive Helpline are great to just chat to someone.
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Oh Jellytot these people don’t care. We keep expecting them to because that’s what normal healthy people do. They don’t have the empathy or capability so try to stop expecting them to.
We keep hoping don’t we ? But I’m so sorry to say it’s not going to change.
I’m still stuck in the hope that they would.
Today wdd we gave support forums. They are literally lifesavers.
He laughs when you shake and cry because he feeds off that. He can’t be happy unless he controls you or has power over you. He’s not actually angry – they are very much in control.
Stay strong, love yourself and your children. Keep posting and visiting these amazing forums.
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